A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hiya everyone Im finding it really hard to understand my ex bf at the moment, he left me to get bk to his ex gf the mother of his child, anyway one miniute he says he can see what everyone else sees in her not a very nice person, then he goes running after her doing whatever she says, then yesterday she asked him to go over so they can talk, then she said that she had got back with her ex bf but then she said that its my ex that she really wants not the guy she is with now, but she said her heads so screwed up that shes not sure if she can really trust my ex, he always tells me about there problams and i try to help but it doesnt seem to get throught to him, i think deep down he knows what shes like but wont admit it, But then he goes and talks to me everyday and saw me down the pub in fact he knew i was down there lastnite as i told him and there he was there 2.R they both playing games on each other, they have split up 3 times before and are relationship was the longest hes had apart from her and people keep telling him it will never work with them but he cant see it PLEASE HELP WHAT R THEY PLAYING AT
View related questions:
ex girlfriend, her ex, his ex, my ex, split up Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): Funny I found this question because 2 days ago the same thing happened to me. I was the happiest person on earth with him and he seemed to be the same way. He always referred to his ex by horrible names and had so many hard feelings. At work two days ago I got a text saying she has nowhere to go and her and the baby are moving back in and we are done. He told me he had no feelings for her and he is just doing it for the baby. however, when i talked to him after he said he is not sure how he feels, the baby may be clouding his judgement but he may have feelings for her again. I am shocked and dumbfounded that the person i thought i knew did this to me. He has called the cops on this girl multiple times for beating him up and being rediculous. I never saw this coming, he was so happy with me. I really don't think it will last with them, but by then hopefully i will be over him. This isn't really an answer but maybe knowing that someone else is going through the same thing will help!
A
female
reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (4 November 2008):
 Hun, I don't mean to be a bitch, but you gotta remember that now he's your ex, it's none of your concern what goes on in his relationship with this girl. Remind yourself of this. What happens to him now, is nothing to do with you.
It would seem that you find it difficult because you want to know whether there's a chance of getting back with him and that you are hoping that they will break up so you can swoop in there and get him back.
You need to break all ties until you really know you can face him and feel nothing for him. It's the only way, sweet. I know it's hard, I really do. But I've been here before and you really can't wait for him, and even if he does come back, don't let him into your life again, you will just feel unable to trust him and it will crumble again before your eyes and you will be left heart broken all over again.
Please, break all ties for now and then decide on what kind of relationship you want with him only after your wounds from this relationship are healed.
Take this advice from someone who's been here, hun. You can do better than him. Remember that. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are worth ten of him and you will not let it knock you down.
You can do it, sweet.
Take care
xx
...............................
|
