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writes:Long story, but worth the read. I dated a girl for three years. At times things were amazing. I loved her and wanted to marry her. Were were compatible in ever way and we loved being together. Had so many great times together, but she became insecure and controlling. Did not like my best friend. Always accused me to talking bad about her. Accused me of talking to other girls. Did not want me hanging out with friends. Questioned me all the time. Had to know everything I did. Called all the time. Got mad if I missed a call. Accused me of checking out other girls all the time. She would get mad and cuss and yell. When we were together we were normally fine. But when we were apart she would be insecure and question me all the time. She would go through my phone and email and call numbers she did not recognize. She would threaten to kill herself. We broke up, and she put a gun to her head and almost pulled the trigger. We got back together. She got counseling and things were much better. I loved her and wanted to marry her. We got along and she was secure. Then I started again. Called me at work constantly and accused me and questioned everything I did, thinking I was cheating. She finally told me she did not trust me or respect me. I left for a cruise with some guys and she freaked out. Locked herself in my car. Cried, yelled and cussed, broke things including jewelry I gave her. The whole week I was gone she freaked out, kept saying I would cheat on her. I came back and she never said sorry. I broke up with her again. She manipulated me so that I came back to her. Slowly we were dating again. She was fine, but would still call me all the time. Accused me of talking bad to my friend. One day she came over and got into an argument with my brother. I told her to stop and leave and she slapped me, then bit me and caused me to bleed and grabbed my balls. We broke up. Then during the next semester were thinking about getting back together. But she would call and if I did not tell her exactly what I was doing she would start an argument and yell and cuss. I told her I was moving on and would date another girl. I found a girl I liked and started dating her. The ex would not leave me alone and called. she threatened to kill herself so I would answer and try to calm her down. She called the new girl and sabotaged my new relationship. I was mad and did not want to be with the ex. But over the next few months we hung out. We had some great times together. Always had fun together and I stilled liked her. I told her that if we could get along we could date again. She still called and accused me of things. Got mad when I added people on facebook. Text me at work saying it was an emergency to ask about facebook. Got mad if I did not text back at work. got out of my car in the middle of the road when I would not let her go through my phone. Ran off at a concert because she accused me checking girls out. would still call and yell and cuss. Always questioned me and who I was talking to. It was crazy but I loved spending time with her and thought that it would get better and that we could date. I wanted to try again if she could act normal. She started talking to a guy on facebook and began dating him. Even when they were officially dating we still hung out and fooled around. I did not tell the new guy. I figured if she would cheat on him she would not stay with him. They got serious and talked about marriage after only two months. She moved on to him and said she could not hang out with me. I got scared and was afraid to loose her forever. I asked her to date me again. She broke up with him and came back to me and said she loved me. We talked about marriage and then that same day said she did not love me and went back to him. Now sometimes I want her back and miss her. I really loved her and wanted to marry her. Now she is going to marry another guy. Am I crazy for wanting her back. She was abusive and I wanted to move on and be with someone else. Now that I have tried dating other girls and she is serious with this guy, I want her back. Am I crazy for still having feelings for her. Am I crazy to think that she would of ever changed. Am I crazy for wanting to marry thing girl and thinking we could have a healthy marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): Hi, Just came across this message. Did it ever work out with you and your ex? what happened afterweards? did she marry that guy?
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reader, ashley95 +, writes (4 November 2008):
HUNI ur ex is crazy...let her go! no matter what happens she aint gonna change I know u love her but in time ull meet the right girlthats not crazy and ull wonder how u even put up with that shit! and ur not crazy for wanting her back its totally normal my ex hit me too and I wanted to kill myself when he would tell me he was having sex with my friends lol but if I can do it so can u they never change ever maybe for awhile but then it will happen again...but honestly ur ex and this is a promise if she is how crazy jelous u say she isher new bf will eventually dump her and promise ya she ll be back in ur arms its up to u to decide what to do with em!
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