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writes:my boyfriend just dumped me becase i have a big nose. im scared now to go back out into the world and find another man incase he doesnt like my big nose.what shall i do signed bignose Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2007): Your ex only said that just so that he could give a reason why he dumped you. If he says that the only reason why he dumped you was because of the size of your nose then why did he go out with you anyway (knowing the size of your nose)? That way just a way to finish with you without being suspicious and say that he dumping you for no reason at all. Maybe he did have a reason but didn't want to tell you so made up that instead (like he might have cheated on you with another girl or maybe he's scared of settling with one girl when he's so young (you haven't given his age but i suspect he's around your age)). You are so young too so move on and go out with another man (presumably one who thinks your nose is just the right size).
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reader, chachacha +, writes (2 March 2007):
Well your nose didn't suddenly become big after you started dating him, did it? You were dating so the nose cannot be the issue.
He probably just said that because he couldn't face telling you what the real reason is, which, by the way, may have nothing to do with you - e.g. he might just want to have fun and not settle down yet, if he's young. He probably doesn't even have the emotional maturity to know what the reason is.
Don't worry about it! Everyone has parts of their appearance that they hate, and yet most people find love. Maybe time to read Cyrano de Bergerac to get it in perspective?
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reader, NuttyGooner +, writes (2 March 2007):
 Hiya,
I don't like my nose, I hate my pasty skin and I have stumpy legs, but I have leant to live with them, as there are other things which are gorgeous about me! You are still young, and it is so easy to blame something on how you look - but you will learn that there are some things you can't change about yourself, but there are some things you can change to make yourself feel better (no, put the Dairy Milk down!).
This boy has the disease "Twattius maximus" - his problem is definately not your nose, he is a total jerk whose own failings has led him to lash out at you in the cruellest way possible.
There's other threads where they guy blames the girls appearance for his behaviour, and make such cruel remarks to create maximum pain. I have said this once, I will say it again - You're best off with this idiot out of your hair, before he did any more damamge to your self confidence!
Go out with your friends and face the world! Everyone's gorgeous - and show this child that his word is not law!
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (2 March 2007):
 oh for goodness sakes! your last boyfriend abouslty has some self esteem isuess him self to be saying that.
just get back out there im pretty sure your ex was talking shit and i know that when some one says something like that even if its not true you start to see it in the mirror and it magnifies it you know? so just get back out there and hold your head high and you will do fine
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (2 March 2007):
 Hi,
He is just shallow, you shouldnt let it bother you. I know its easy to say, but we all have our faults. Even though someone may look perfect is dosnt mean that they are. You need to get some confidence for yourself, and stop seeing the size of your nose as a problem.
If it really is that bad you could talk to your mum and dad who could help you. When you are so young though, its easy to blame things on your looks. So try to put things in perspective, and dont let this horrible boy put you down.
Im sure you are pretty really XXX
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reader, Saz464 +, writes (2 March 2007):
 What a horrible thing for someone to say. Can't believe he broke up with you over something like that.
I think it was probaly an excuse. Someone like this isn't really worth thinking about.
The fact that you're thinking about your next move is a good sign. The last thing you want is to slip into a self-esteem depression.
Forget everything he said to you and remember you are beautiful.
Hope things go well for you
xx
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