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*piral123
writes:I’m 29 years old been with my boyfriend for the past 2 years we have an awesome relationship until recently he’s not interested in having sex anymore. Everything else in our relationship is fine but when it comes to being intimate he’s always too tired or he just doesn’t want to I’ve tried everything I can think of to try and get him in the mood but no luck. We have sex maybe 4 times a month when he’s interested and it only lasts maybe two minutes the most it was never like that I feels o used at those times. He tells me he’s sorry for finishing so quickly. I bring it up but when I do he gets bothered and tells me “sorry for not satisfying you” that’s it. I stopped bring it up because he says he feels bad not satisfying me. He also says it’s not me it’s him. He assures me he loves me everything else in our relationship is good we get along great I love being around him. I know he does too. I’m just so confused about this whole sex issue. Any thoughts words from experience any help will be greatly appreciated.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (2 August 2010):
 What does your gut tell you?..I agree you should keep an eye on his other activities. Someone telling you they love you isn't necessarilly a true indication of how they feel. They do say. for men in particular, watch what they do and not what they say!!
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (2 August 2010):
 he could just be going through a phase where he physically doesnt want sex.. maybe an erectile problem... who knows there could be so many reasons... i suggest not stressing him about it if he has had a loss in sex drive or an erectile problem.. then hes probably beating himself up enough.. if you love him stick it out if not move on relationships should be about more then sex though..
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reader, Compartmentalizing +, writes (2 August 2010):
This is an interesting topic, because I have the exact same thing going on in reverse. I would suggest that you keep an eye out for changes in behavior, work schedule, privacty with his phone, possible new texting habits, spending to much time on facebook or myspace. A lack of interest in sex, especially when one or the other persons in the relationship tries to keep it interesting often times means the other person has something new going on in their life. Keeping an eye out for changes in his life might give you a clue to what new thing he has going on.
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