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writes:my boyfriend is unsure as to whther he is bisexual or not. he says im enuf for him and that he's still in love with me and wants to be with me but he doesn't know if he wants to be with a man or not. he says hes not sure if its sexual or if he wants a relationship but he does feel it is jus sexual. i don't know how to handle this. im fine with him bein bi i jus don't wanna b with him if he doesn't know if he can b wit me n only me or if he constantly think bout men all the time. i no there r no guarantees for the future but im jus so confused pls help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2007): He's gay - just doesn't want to admit it.If you're OK with him being gay, and occasionally (or frequently) sleeping with other guys then continue to see him.If not, move on.
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (6 April 2007):
 Don't get too hung up on labels. Sexual experimentation is not unusual as someone matures. Your guy probably needs some room to find out what works for him. It seems very likely at this point that you are figuring very large in his plans for the future, and this thing with guys is just something he's wondering about.
Unless you're really feeling a strong need to bail out over this, give him some space. Tell him about your feelings and your fears, and tell him above all to please be CAREFUL. In spite of recent advances, STD's are still a big problem in the bi/gay community. Give him support and affection and make it clear that you hope, in the end, that the two of you will be together.
Then hope for the best.
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reader, markanthonyv0 +, writes (6 April 2007):
Think of it this way, we are not born with a guide to our life, we learn through experimenting.
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