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female
age
41-50,
*pumie
writes:Hi. Is it my imagination. My bf is so into friends. He accompanied his friend to another province for a his friends' wedding and he had to abscond work for 5 days which it was a leave without pay. And again someone has passes on to that province again he's attending that funeral and abscond for two days I.e its going to be a leave without pay. To me it doesn't make even if I love my friend like that, worse part to lose a salary to make him happy.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (9 June 2012):
 Hi,
You are judging your boyfriend's ability to connect with his friends and offer support for them? Would you rather him be an uncaring pig?
Unless you guys have a house together and his taking leave without pay is affecting mortgage payments or bill payments, I don't see how his travelling to support friends is an issue.
What I believe the issue is ...is that you think he is spending too much time with these other people when he should be making those sacrifices of days off for you. It's really selfish to think that way when all he is doing is celebrating his friend's wedding and comforting a friend for a funeral.
I am wondering though, there must be a reason why he doesn't invite you along with him? Is that why his travelling bothers you so much?
In these times, true friends are very hard to find. Ones that will cross miles and borders to be there for you when you need them. Your boyfriend sounds like a gem of a gentleman and a friend. I would make every attempt to hold on to him if I were you, because he is good as gold.
Stop being so selfish and cherish the man you have in your life who knows the value of friendship.
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