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writes:my friend has just had a kid, but i haven't seen her for ages because i've been at uni. anyway, her kids father is my boyfriends best friend.. and he's asked to be god father. it just seems like i'm completely excluded. he has arranged things with me but he's gone to celebrate with his best mate and his family.. and not had any consideration for me, he said he can't give me a time he'll be round to see me. i just feel like i'm not included in any of it. i want to be a proper couple where we come as one, but we just don't. i have nothing to do with what he does. it just has really gotten to me!am i blowing it out of preportion?i don't mind that he's part of it, i just wish i was too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe've been together 2 years
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your advice. i was feeling fine about it until he decided he wasn't going to come & see me at all, so he's blown me off & he's going out tonight instead of seeing me. now i do feel like i'm excluded. i feel like he thinks i'm boring.. what gives?
got any advice on how to be less of a boring girlfriend?
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 Don't take it out on your boyfriend too much. He did not ask to be in this position, ...but it is quite an honor for him, and if he has to put some time in to fulfilling that role, then so be it.
Same sort of thing happens when someone is asked to be a best man or a bridesmaid, ... they are not just agreeing to turn up on the day, they are agreeing to take a journey with those who ask, and help them along the way.
Yes it would have been nice if you could have gone and celebrated with him, but perhaps it was a male bonding kinda thing going on, .. perhaps something they just wanted to share with the family and respective god parents. Did you ask about this?
Once the ceremonial aspect is organized and over tho, make sure it is clear with your boyfriend that you expect visits to the parents and child to be something that you do as a couple, just as you would with any other friends for any other reason.
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