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female
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36-40,
*ilso
writes:Hi my boyfriend is deployed for 7 months in Latvia. I felt like he seems distant. I opened his Facebook I saw that he’s messaging one girl, he was telling the girl that he will send a letter to her and by the time that girl is 30 she should marry him. And by the way he doesn’t know that I opened his Facebook. I just need everyone’s advice, what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2018): Well, since you know the dirt; you may as well inform him of what you know, and wish him well and goodbye.
Your first inclination might be to fight for him and try and keep him. Will you ever trust him? You've been played!!!
I'd tell him to kiss-off; and end it, my dear! Then block him; so you never have to hear from him again.
Oh, by the way...stop snooping now that you know there's someone else. You'll only torture yourself by continuing to view their messages. What good would that do?
Spying and stalking him is just beating yourself over the head with it; and it is going to do a lot of damage to your heart. So get out of there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2018): Your boyfriend is a player!!!!
It's clear as day. I have no problem with you confirming your gut feeling the way you did.
Be glad you snooped on his FB and be glad you will now have all the evidence you need to kick his ass to the curb.
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reader, Been there Now over it  +, writes (19 March 2018):
Since he is off in Latvia, who knows how many girls he is playing. If he is playing two there is likely more. What is this deal about waiting until she is 30? It sounds like he wants to string her along and dump her when she reaches 29 and 11 months. He has plans for you...definitely something NOT to your advantage. Dump him asap and get on with your life and your search for the RIGHT man. Good luck!
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reader, N91  +, writes (19 March 2018):
 Surely you know that you should dump him?
What could you possibly want to salvage here? He's openly discussing wanting to marry another woman.
You should he with someone you don't need to check up on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2018): You know what you should do. Dump him. Tell him why, but don't let him try to weasel out of it. There is no good excuse for him to have done this. He's obviously playing you both. You deserve someone who will respect you and love only you.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (19 March 2018):
 1) Break up with him.
2) Never snoop on people's social media. It's not your right to break their privacy, even if they are doing bad things.
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