My boyfriend is so immature and flirty and won't grow up!

A female age 30-35, *heBeautifulDisaster writes:

I am in love with my boyfriend. I really want things to work but he is so immature it's sad and it puts me off at times. We are the same age, i work but he doesn't. We are both in university, and we have almost the same personalities. We are 20 although he is a few months older. We've been together for 3months. We've made it a point that we use each moment i'm free wisely, together that is. We'd walk around our neighbourhood, takr walks to a near by railway line and just sit there and talk. Along the way we'd talk and laugh, and chase each other, and hold hands, and kiss, and of course hug. During our times together we didn't do much but we were just rnjoying each other's company sitting outside people's yards and talking. We both experienced heart break in the past. He says initially he didn't love me, he just wanted to mess around and hurt me but realised i didn't have wrong intentions and grew to love me, hence him telling me about his initial strategy. The guy just won't grow up!...at all! He loves girls, he loves attention. We had each other's facebook passwords and everythime i'd find a girl making a move on him, and him entertaining them. That pissed me off! I'd tell him, he'd appologize and stop talking to the girl and onother one would come into the picture. We fought once about this one girl who was out of the country this one time, i dumped him, he explained, we went back together the same day, at night though. He went on to flirt with another girl this time i dumped him and stopped talking to him for days. He sent about three long messages explaining himself, i ignored them. I went on to tell the world i was trying to get over him so eventually it wud reach his ears. It did reach his ears as planned. We talked but it wasn't the usual. In one of his messages he admitted he loved attention and asked for assistance from me. I told him to get into the world and get all the attention he wants, then he'll grow up.i didnt promise to wait for him to pass that stage in life cause i wouldn't. Anyway, we eventaully worked things out. He hasn't given me his facebook password yet, i wonder what he's hiding,im not going to force it out of him. Today he waited for me to leave church so he could walk that girl who he was flirting with, the one who was out of the country.i'm really hurt. And jeolous. And really need help. I've been exercising my game by flirting with other boys so he feels how im feeling. Really what's the best thing for me to do? And he calls all girls hun, sweety, babes...

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