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writes: I've been with my bf 15 months and have been living together for the past 4. He's a great guy and we have loads of fun together. He's a very funny/cheeky which is what attracted me to him but I notice that he attracts other girls too. I don't think that he would ever cheat on me but I can't help but feel jealous. I recently was using his phone (with his permission) when I noticed his text messages from an ex girlfriend. I could'nt help but look it; said she was in the area & wondered if they could meet up. Also another from a random Aussie girl saying she was back in the country & wanted to meet up again. How do I know if he was pleased to hear from them & whether he'd like to meet them or not? I feel very jealous, don't know what to do. I would be grateful for any advice. Am I turning into a nightmare possessive girlfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2012): There's nothing wrong about that. All witty guys are as such:D
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2005): let your bloke be who is and trust me, if he is the cheating kind you give him enough rope and he'll hang himself, or he won't. I know that in times like this, it is easy to turn into a bunny boiler, but actually believe it or not, in these situations it is far better to chill out and relax about it. You will never keep a man by being possesive and will probably drive him away, be cool, be smart, Ask yourself what kind of woman do you want to be, do you really want to resort to sneaking through pockets in the middle of the night and reading into text messages, come on you know it's sad and so what if he cheated on you, wouldn't that be a blessing in disguise, at least you'd not have wasted 20 years of your life on the guy and you'd still have options, I know it's weird but i have seen too many women forget about themselves in these kinds of situations, and it is never good. If your relationship is progressing nicely and you care about him then focus on that and if he has the odd girl call him from the past, well, he has known people before he knew you which is normal.However, If he starts going out all night and coming back stinking of perfume,or showing you total disrespect and you know it's for real then smack him round the head and put yourself first. What i am trying to say is, chill out for now cos nothing has actually happened, deal with it when it happens doll, not before anything has.Don;t become a female stalker for god sake, lol, it aint worth it. if he is genuine, trust me on this, time always tells the tale.
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reader, kim21 +, writes (2 August 2005):
of course your not a nightmare girlfriend it is natural reaction. the thing you have to ask yourself is does he come home to you at night if the answer is yes there is one thing you dont have to worry about as for girls looking at him dont be jealous be proud obviosly you have a man which other girls dream of but what you have so put your head up high ignore any nasty comments and as for text messages thats nothing obviously they dont know he has a girlfriend as good as you. if you need to talk you no were i am
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2005): I completely understand where you are coming from. My partner is an absolute babe. Tall, dark and handsome and has the fun/outgoing personality. He is always attracting other girls and even gets asked out on dates. Even when we are out together girls hit on him. Plus he has two exes and another girl he got with years ago that he texts and catches up with now and then. But he is with me not any of them. I made the decision to trust him plus he has been absolutely honest with me in regards to the girls that text him. Trust him until he proves otherwise. Even if he did want to meet up with any of these girls as long as he tells you then I believe you have nothing to worry about. I have male friends that I catch up with now and then and there is nothing there other than friendship. Good luck
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