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anonymous
writes:my boyfriend wants to have sex with me.we already had twice this month.whenever he gets a chance,he starts fingering me.last night,he just pulled open my top and started sucking my breasts.he wanted my naked photos which i gave him.i never refused him cause i do not want to lose him.i had a period recently.i do not want to become pregnant.he does not want to take precaution.please advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): "i never refused him cause i do not want to lose him.i had a period recently.i do not want to become pregnant.he does not want to take precaution"
You are too immature to have sex, you are too young. You let a man do things to you that you don't like, you are afraid to tell him no because you don't want to lose him, your allowing to give you a baby and probably a sexual disease. He's got pictures of you, what's he gonna do, show them to his friends, show them to your friends, your parents. Girl you have no sense.... STOP HAVING SEX NOW.... This man dosen't sound right at all, if you can't see the signs then your much too young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): RUN AWAY VERY FAST....
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 Hi,
he is abusing you and raping you. My god girl, you have to get out of this relationship as soon as you can.
But beware, he will use the photos against you. that was a huge mistake but you cant take it back. Don't fall for his threats, you sound a lot younger than 18-21 , or at least very inexperienced. This is not a relationship it is abuse. He is a monster, get away from him. If you have a brother or father around tell them that you are scared of your boyfriend, I'm sure they will stick up for you if he turns nasty. Personally, I'd go round to his house with a baseball bat .
Sorry ,if you continue to see him , the rape and abuse will continue, he sees you as an object a personal plaything, he has zero respect for you. Get out now.
If he persists go to the police and get a restraining order.
And stop this rediculous talk that "you do not want to lose him" . why? he is monster , he has total control over you. Escape now before he does some serious damage and you are left having a baby to an abusive partner.
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (8 July 2008):
 By all means, he MUST stop if you tell him to. If he doesn't, GET OUT NOW!!!!
But twice in a month? Hey, that's hardly a good weekend. I think he's assuming that you're more interested in sex than you apparently are.
You don't say anything about the other aspects of your relationship with him, so it's hard to judge how things are really going between the two of you, but based on what you've presented here, I'd say that you would probably best be rid of this guy once and for all.
And the picture thing? Bad idea. Never let yourself be photographed in a way that you wouldn't be willing to see up on the internet with your name attached to it, because that could very well happen. Throughout my life, I've always told the women I've been intimate with that the only thing I'd rather have than intimate pictures of them is the knowledge that such pictures do not exist.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): How old are you?
You need help; you have a few serious problems to deal with;
First:
you have to stop seeing this guy;
not only is he abusive;
He does not love you; he does not respect you;
he risks your health; risks you falling pregnant;
Second
You will have to get to a doctor to arrange for the necessary tests for STD's and AIDS; if you are late with a period, you will have to do a pregnancy test; BUT immedieately get to a doctor for the other tests;
Third
Naked photos of you? Probably showing it to all his friends, who knows, putting it on the internet; no no, NEVER, ever allow anybody, to have pictures of you naked; it is to dangerous; Ask for the photos back, doubt if he will return it but ask;
You have to stop all contact with this guy;
He is destroying your life;
Please if need be talk to your parent or a good friend to help you through this;
We are here if you need to talk; but you really have to TAKE ACTION;
It is your life and be responsible, take care.
Best wishes; get to the doctor; keep me posted.
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reader, Dave_Monk  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 No means No. If you don't want to then he has to stop. if he carries on then just leave him. After you tell him and he doesnt stop then it time to say byebye.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): LEAVE HIM NOW!That's what you should do!He only wants you
for sexual activities and his sexual needs.If you don't
leave now,then it could get 10x worse.Uhhhh,that's sick.He
should be in court right now being sentenced for sexual abuse.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (8 July 2008):
If he will not stop when you tell him to then he is abusing you.
If he refuses to use protection then he does not care about you, your health, or any baby that he makes.
Please get away from this man now before he forces himself on you some more.
Good Luck!! xx
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