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*erek344
writes:My boyfriend is persistently texting his ex all day and probably all night for all I know. We have had our problems in the past and I cheated on him several times but now we have talked through things and he understands that I'm not going to be immature anymore, but I'm not allowed to talk to any other guys at all not even friends, while he can talk to whoever he wants because he "wants a warm heart to go to if I change back." I'm not stupid and I know I've been at fault plenty of times in the relationship but this really doesn't sound fair to me and is really really upsetting especially if I'm hanging out with him and all he does is text message his ex the entire time, often forgetting to pay attention to me at all and then in the end finding somehow to get mad at me for it! Basically I just want to know what other people think of my complicated situation and what I should do, is it worth sticking around or what should I do? Please help I'm pretty emotional about this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): Well I just attempted to talk to him about it and he says talking to him is the best thing for our relationship which makes absolutely no sense and pisses me off! He said if I can't deal with it then he can't deal with me anymoree
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (29 October 2008):
 What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander. He has a right to ask you not to contact anyone because you cheated. YOU have that same right to ask him not to contact his Ex, because it is emotional cheating. They were lovers, NOT FRIENDS. The fact that he calls his Ex "a warm heart to go back to" is PROOF that this is inappropriate. You may have been wrong in the past, but he is currently the one who is tanking this relationship now. Tell him, in no uncertain terms, that YOU aren't going anywhere, that you two are a couple now, and the texting stops NOW. If he doesn't stop after your conversation, then HE is the one doing the cheating, plain and simple! Good Luck Hun!
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