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writes:Hi, Im 19 and about two years ago i met a guy and a year later we started dating. He's only my second relationship in my entire life. Everything is great, he's so sweet, he's soo good looking but here's the proublem, he's 1,243 miles away. This has been hard on the both of us. But we skype every night, he calls me during the day, or on his break at work just to see how my day is going. Im happy with him and everythig is good, we except that were in a LDR and we wanna finish college first and save some money so we can visit eachother often until we think its time to move in together. The real proublem is, im so inscure. i have this crazy fear that he is talking to other women or even might cheat on me ieven had plety of dreams were he was cheating on me and i would wake up feeling so deppressed. I even fight with him sometimes like if he gets a text while were talking i will automatically think its a girl texting him, and ill start not talking and eventually just hang up on him, this caused fights in the past cause he always says i trust you, why cant you trust me.I really dont know why i cant. Ive never been cheated on, but then again he is my only second guy ive ever been with. I know he's not sleeping with anyone because he has a college class he takes at 6 in the morning and then right after that he goes to work, he textes me through out the whole day, and then when he comes home we either sype or talk on the phone, so he really has no time to even be doing anything. Whenever he goes out with his friends he'll text me like through out the whole night then we he gets home he calls. I dont know why i have a fear he would cheat on me? He's so perfect and makes me happy, but im such a jelouse person and i dont know what is making me so inscure and im scared its gunna ruin what we have together. Can anyone please help me, give me any advice how to get over this? or how to calm down when i feel like im beggining to get jelouse? i really hate feeling this way :( pease help
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 July 2012):
 I agree with eyespy17, he is putting a lot of effort in to this relationship, something he would not be doing if he was not interested, but I guess you know deep down that he is completely committed. You still have this nagging feeling because you are insecure, and my guess for this is because he is so far away. You do not get to see him or physically have a relationship, and this is difficult for anybody in a relationship, especially someone so young as you. Long distance really is difficult to keep going and it is great to see he is making such a huge effort with you, and I am sure you are doing the same. You just need to remember that it is you he wants to be with and keep remembering that it will not always be this hard.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (23 July 2012):
You have to realize that if a guy as young as he is - 1200 miles away - is making the effort to text, call and Skype you EVERY day - his heart is IN it. He is making that choice to be with you. Take that as the truest sign - actions speak the loudest and it seems he is on board and committed.
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