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writes:My boyfriend has been on vacation for the past few days and will be gone for a week more, and I've felt nothing but anxious the whole time. I can't understand why. I haven't heard from him very much but I can understand that, considering he IS on vacation, plus that isn't really out of the norm. I typically feel fine (or can at least deal with it) when we go a great length of time apart when he's home, so I can't understand or even pinpoint why I'm feeling so bad while he's gone. I have no reason to believe that he would cheat on me. I've also kept myself busy to the point where I literally only go home to roll into bed and crash, but that hasn't helped at all. He has another vacation coming up in a few months and I can't stand to feel like this again, does anyone have any advice on how I can continue to deal with this and make it a bit easier on me next time? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 March 2012):
 Are you upset he went on a long vacation without you? Because I know I would be upset if we had a serious relationship and he took a vacation without me...
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reader, landomando +, writes (5 March 2012):
My ex had the same problem. So when i left I got her a big teddy bear and she took all my sweaters cause it reminded her of me. I still havnt gotten those back! lol.. But anyways maybe it would be easier to have something that reminds you of him with you.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (4 March 2012):
 You know how sometimes when it's hard to go to sleep at night, the worst possible thing you can do is to try and make yourself sleep? Trying to make yourself sleep just gets you more not sleepy than if you didn't.
I think this is the same in your case. TRYING to make yourself not anxious is just making you....more anxious! You're already keeping busy, and that's half the battle. I would suggest going right ahead and missing your boyfriend. I would suggest that instead of concentrating on how bad you feel that he's away, think about how good you'll feel when he gets back!
You mentioned that you don't think he's cheating on you. I wonder if you're feeling this way because he's on vacation without you doing things that make him feel good. At either rate, instead of just making yourself busy, why not be good to yourself? Take the opportunity to do something really fun while he's away.
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reader, thegrassisgreen  +, writes (4 March 2012):
 i think you should tell him how you feel, and how worried you get about it. It seems like you're having a few trust issues, which i think can be easily sorted after a heart to heart with him. I wouldn't worry yourself over it :)
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