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writes: Once about 2 years ago, I found that my boyfriend had looked at child porn on the cpu. I confronted him,and he said he was looking at porn in general, and was curious. I was still upset, but accepted this, as he does occasionally look at porn, he's young, and I hadnever seen anything like that on there before. Well yesterday I look at the windows media player, anddiscover that he's looked at several videos in the lastcouple of months, I don't think he realized that once you preview something on media player, it stays there unless you delete it from there? Does this mean that my bf is some kind of pedophile. I love him too much to just leave, but part of me wants to? He says he doesn't get any kind of sexual pleasure out of it, but he doesn't know why he looked at it. Please Help!
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reader, thinky  +, writes (17 September 2008):
He is sponsoring the abuse of children by his actions, which are criminal in nature.
"He says he doesn't get any kind of sexual pleasure out of it, but he doesn't know why he looked at it."
And... can you really believe that? The more he discovers he can tell you obvious untruths with impunity, the more he'll do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): There is a big difference on thinking something and acting on something. Can a person look at child porn and not be a pedophile? In my opinion...yes. I think some males look at it because they know that they are doing something wrong. Maybe it gives them some kind of disturbed absolutly disgusting thrill. I think if it becomes a major habit. You might want to go talk to a professional about it and about how to approch your boyfriend! I just want to add that people who subject these poor children to porn should be put in jail forever!! It makes me sick to my stomach!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): I recently found out that my boyfriend looks at child porn, or atleast he used to. I feel guilty that I was snooping but, on the other hand, I'm glad that I did. I was looking at some old writings of his and he mentioned being very excited by child porn. That was 2 years ago, but I don't have any reason to believe that it hasn't changed. Can this change? I love him very much but I think that I don't want to have a future with someone that has ever fantasized about sex with children. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2006): Ah I see, thanks for the clarification, and I apologize for hijacking your thread Ms. Anonymous. It wasn't my intention.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2006): If you sold this video and it was distributed over the internet for public access, it would be illegal, Martini. Because of the ages of the participants. I think this, specifically, is what the person posting this question was speaking of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2006): So that means if I was 16 and I video taped my girlfriend of 15 years of age strip and finger herself, that would also be illegal?
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reader, emma1 +, writes (14 March 2006):
this is very inappropriate behaviour, no matter how old he is. i would report him to the police immediately. what if his curiosity gets the better of him next time and he takes it a step further? how could you live with yourself, knowing you could of prevented it?? you must tell the police.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2006): It is not legal for a person of any age to look at or possess child porn, and I mean, any age. I hope I made that clear enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2006): The age of your bf is not important! Sheesh If he's old enough to be in a relationship..he certainly old enough to know what is right and what is wrong. What a nightmare for you! I think the more serious issue here is that what your boyfriend is doing is against the law. By viewing this stuff, he is condoning the blatant, sick abuse of little children. Leave and report him to the police.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2006): Well, first of all, how old is your bf? I mean, sometimes I wonder about child porn - well, the obvious age is obviously wrong, but what if he is 16 looking at a 15 year old girl do lude (sp?) acts? What about a 15 year old looking at a 14 year old, or an 18 year old looking at 16 year old? Then what? Of course, well...
We shouldn't be telling you whom you should love or not. If this is acceptable for you, then stay. If it isn't, talk to him about it. If it's too much for you, leave.
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