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writes:My boyfriend wants his sister to stop going out with his very close friend. He just found out they are going out on dates and stuff...told her to end it. He feels that he's a bum and is only being nice to her to get into her pants. I guess he knows him that well. But last night his cell died in the middle of our conversation. He used his sister's phone. Now he says, 'I found my friends' # and a few messages on her phone. So, I deleted them'!! He's asking me if that was wrong?!? He said he only read one message and just deleted the rest. What do I tell him? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (4 February 2009):
 Well, YES it was wrong to read and delete messages. That's like going through someones mail (only proverbially. I'm pretty sure that deleting a text message is not a federal offense). Your brother shouldn't have done that.
It is sweet that your brother is protective of his sister - that's what big brothers are good at. And if his friend is a jerk then he should voice his concerns and then shut his mouth and keep out of her business. I've got girlfriends who have had many a good relationship destroyed by an overprotective brother. Tell him not to be super pushy or intrusive or he will only push them closer together.
Good luck!
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (4 February 2009):
 well it is wrong, he should guide his sister and be there for her but he cant get too involved in her love life, she is entitled to make her own decsisions. he must know his friend well enough to express an opinion that he is no good for his sister so she should listen to his advice. if she fails to listen to his advice she will find out what he is like on her own and make her own mistakes, this does have a good side though, she'll learn a valuable lesson. tell your boyfriend to stand back from the situation and only interfer when he is concerned for his sisters safety. hope this helps, good luck, keep in touch. x
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