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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I need some help, to cut a long story short I lead a very "sheltered" life, I have never had a boyfriend never had any physical contact with a guy and i didn't bother me until I started my new job. A guy there wants a bit of fun and he is gorgeous (not sure what he see in me) and he doesn't see it as a problems and nor do I really but as I said "sheltered" it is a bit of an issues for me, if I explain I am a virgin he might not really understand I mean I am 26 and I have never had the opportunity before. Most people at work think I am confident and probably don't know, I just want to go for it but I am scared of making a fool of myself as I don't know what to do. Any help, welcome.
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reader, HeartASHXOXO  +, writes (4 February 2009):
I think you should do for it... sex isnt that ocmplicated when your in the situation. And theres nothing wrong with being a virgin, a lot of people respect thant
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 February 2009):
Are you really sure you want your first time to be with a guy who wants "a bit of fun?" Is this really what you wanted for your first time?
I'm not that sentimental to believe that all girls dream of being in a loving relationship and on a giant bed with rose petals but I think you need to be sure you won't regret this.
You say you haven't waited through choice though so I will leave that for you to think about.
The MAIN think that worries me about this is whether you can control your feelings. Girls tend to get very attached through sex and if this is your first "boyfriend" experience you may fall for him and think he cares when really he's just being nice, but is still only after sex.
I think you can only have no strings sex if you truly KNOW there will never be any strings. I'm not saying be hard and mean to him, but just accept that no matter how he acts towards you, or how nice he is, that does not mean he likes you as anything more than a mate.
Younger girls have this problem a lot and although I am sure you can look after yourself, I just want you to mentally be prepared for lots of feelings of "but he texted me with xx on the end so does this mean he is in love with me?" Read some of the other questions on here to see how us girls can lose all sense of logic when sex is involved.
As for your question about making a fool of yourself. You don't have to tell him you are a virgin, and I think by your age, your hymen will be long gone so he won't notice that.
You can mention that you aren't very experienced, and he'll probably find your innocence cute. Just relax and do what feels nice. Sex is really not that difficult.
Good Luck!! xx
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