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writes: My bf has been in the army for just over two years now and I hate it. I really didn't want him to join up in the first place but I stuck by him and his decision. I have never been overly happy that he is in the army and it is just something I have lived with but it has now got to the point that I cant stand it any more. There are always them moments/days when you just want to go get them and there stuff and bring them home and never let them work away so much ever again, when you long for them to be at home so much that you just want to cry. Well I have been feeling like this everyday for a couple of months now. Its not like he has only been in the army a couple of months and I need to get used to it, it is now over two years and I hate it more as each day goes by. The problem is I don't know what to do, I know that there is no possible way for him to leave, if he wanted to or not, and I do not want us to split up but I cant carry on with the relationship as it is. It is making me so unhappy. Whatever I do I will be unhappy. I stay with him and the army continues to rule our lives and I stay unhappy, I leave him and I break my heart because I will have lost the man that I love!What do I do?xXxxxGeorgiaxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): I am exactley in the same boat as you, i have been seeing my boyfriend for 1 year now. He joined the army about a monh into our dating and i never thought it wud be this hard at all. I see him on weekends if im lucky, or if hes not working away. He is to about pass out now for a week then after he goes back in he goes straight to fight. I feel like you every second of the da wondering what he is doing, is he alrite ect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): There is no correct answer for this.You have to decide, what's more important: staying with him, and making extreme compromises in order to do so? Or leaving him, to allow your heart to mend so you can start fresh?He may be in the army for the rest of his life. Can you deal with that?What about the fact that love is supposedly unconditional though. By leaving him, are you not giving up?I do not think you can ask him to drop out of the army. From the sounds of it, it's his chosen career.Maybe take a few days for yourself to just think about it and decide what's best for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): You are an army wife, in the same position as many women who are with men with dangerous jobs or who work far away.
Your question is "Do I want to continue being an army wife, or shall I walk away". How can anyone answer that question for you. Only you know what you want, only you can make up your mind. Or have you made up your mind already?
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