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My boyfriend is getting turned off sex with me

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Question - (17 January 2010) 8 Answers - (Newest, 19 January 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I am only 18 and i have a huge problem...

My problem is i get so wet i actually can have a puddle by the time me and my bf finish having sex and it is such a problem not only because of the mess obviously but also because my bf cant get off and finds it a turn off and because i cant either...and sex just isnt fun it turns into a embarassing moment i want sex to be fun again and i want to enjoy sex with me and my man again this is the love of my life....

Any Advice...Please!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010):

Thanks for answering guys for the advice i will be asking more soon...3

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010):

:) i suffer exactly the same problem, but my bf doesnt mind it. Your boyfriend should realise this is perfectly normal. to try and reduce the amount, try going straight to sex and missing out foreplay.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010):

Yes I get too wet for sex and it is a huge turn off cause we both can't feel much, we do it in the morning now while I am half asleep and my body is too... I don't seem to be do wet then

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010):

One more thing, if the guy makes the puddle as others commented on: have baby wipes or toilet paper ready. Then before he pulls out position it around his penis so that you stop the sperm from leaking out of you. Then go to the bathroom and let the sperm out in the toilet. Also a good routine is to take a pee, peeing after sex prevents urinal infection! Then wash up with water so that you are sure no pieces of toilet paper is stuck on you (sperm is sticky).

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010):

Yes, place a towel underneath you. I dont make a puddle, but I know if my bf goes down on me I'll start leaking, and parts of the puddle will be from his saliva as well. So I place something underneath me, a towel, and pillowcase, a pair of his boxers etc. and when it gets too wet for me to feel much, I take a good wipe and let him continue. Also, because of his penis being quite straight, if Im very wet I can barely feel him in me. Then I tell him to go slow. Going slow he dries me out a little and it also feels better, or I can tell him to pull out and wipe myself again. Moving around and changing positions help too, because my body at least produces more "wetness" when penetrated. Moving around and changing positions gives me small breaks to dry up a little, also the new position will make me feel different things.

Best of luck! Hope any of this helps!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010):

Your boyfriend is being very immature. We are all different. Your boyf needs to realise that it isn't all like it is in the movies. He should realise that you don't have control over this either. Can he control when he gets an erection if he gets turned on? I wouldn't think so. If he can't handle this then I think you need to stop sleeping together until he grows up a bit. Don't let him make you feel bad or not normal in any way. It's completely normal. He should be pleased that you get so turned on. If he can't see this then you need to think about whether you really like him all that much......

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A male reader, LazyGuy Netherlands +, writes (17 January 2010):

LazyGuy agony auntEh... that is what women do. They leak. Who has to sleep on the wet spot is a common part of a living together.

You don't have a problem, your bf does. Women get wet and lets face it, part of the puddle is probably his, unless you use a condom. Complaining about the wet spot is like complaining about getting sweaty or the panting.

If the towel advice below isn't enough, then about the only thing you can do is stop getting so excited... might take the fun out of sex though.

If he finds your lubrication a turn-off, then say that you find his sperm a turn-off. No more coming for him, because it just ain't sexy... really, both you and him need a bit of a reality check. Sex is messy.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (17 January 2010):

Maybe just have a towel by you. This is pretty normal with some women, I think your boyfriend just doesn't entirely know how women work! Don't be embarrassed about it.

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