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writes:i had a relationship of 3 yrs but my boyfriend cheated me and confess his mistake that he had many relationship and i dont have any hint, but due to some personal issue i forgive his all mistakes. i gave him another chance but i am not happy but he is doing each and every thing to make me feel special and happy, but i am a totally changed person after all the s**t happens to me. i trusted him blindly and i thought that everything in my life is so perfect, i had all the gems but unfortunately i was wrong. i am such a fool that i lost every thing and now nothing make me happy and im a lonely person and sad very sad and hopeless. my heart is broken by my love. the person whom i trusted most...the person i loved him most.......but i got nothing.. now the problem is that now my boyfriend get irritate and frustrated by my sad and lonely behaviour and he want me to smile again but i cant..i dont know why? what 2 do? please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2010): It can take a long time to forgive. And its hard work for both partners. You should start by asking yourself if you even want to be with him anymore. If not, your relationship wont work. You will just stay with him because you dont have the courage to go. And in doing so, make yourself and him even more unhappy. Sometimes when something has been broken....like trust, there is no way to repair it. So do you want to be with him? If the answer is yes, then you must explian to him that he has to be very patient and understanding, while you grieve over the relationship with him that you have lost. Then you must start to build a new relationship with him. This wont work unless you both want it too. Talk to him x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 February 2010):
 If you want to stay in this relationship , you need to forgive and wipe the slate clean and start all over again.
It will take time to get over those pains. If you think he is worth hanging on , then you should give him another chance.
Go some where away from him to think over what you need to do .
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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (22 February 2010):
 You can't be happy because you are still hurting. He cannot expect everything to go back to normal and for you to act as though nothing happened. He has no right to get annoyed with you; he messed things up,it will be a while before you trust him again, and he will have to deal with your sadness and anger since he is the cause of it. It sounds like he doesn't understand how deeply he hurt you.
My question to you is why you chose to stay in a relationship with someone who has cheated on you multiple times; why are you putting yourself through all of this? While you do get to be hurt and angry, you can't punish him forever. If you feel you can't truly forgive him, let him go. You have every right to walk away if this relationship is no longer making you happy.
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