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writes: Recently, I have found out that my boyfriend discusses with one of my very good friends about our relationship and problems. I can't help but feel annoyed that my boyfriend talks about me and our problems to my friend behind my back. You see my friend used to really like my boyfriend before I started seeing him, and when I found out she did she told me she didn't like him anymore. But I know deep down that she does. It just bothers me that she wants to get involved in our issues but I don't want this because it is no one's buisness. I dont know whether I'm overreacting but it's really bothering and I don't know what to say to them- Please help!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2005): Hi Anon,
I obviously dont know the ins and outs of your relationship, but I do know how you feel and how difficult all of this may seem.
i am sure if you did the same thing with a really good looking mate who used to fancy you, he wouldnt be too pleased about it.
i know when guys dont think theyre receiving enuff ego satisfying attention, they seek it in another woman, so i guess one suggestion is to let him know that he can talk to you, so he hasnt any need to talk to her.
be a friend to him, talk to him a in a relaxing envirnoment, you know casual night out etc., (i know this sounds really lame!!) but i know when you confront guys full on, they tend to clam up and lose contact with planet earth for a while...:-)
In all fairness, this guy should talk to his male friends about his relationship troubles, not YOUR female friends, especially if he knows she used to like him..talk to your freind about it. if shes the good mate that you say she is, the next time he comes to her, she will tell him that he needs to talk to you.
When you talk to her dont be too threatening, you dont wanna look like the bad guy here, because youre not. :-)
best wishes
Madison
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