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female
age
30-35,
*eart1018
writes:I have been dating this guy for 7 months long distance. We usally see eachother every weekend. At first I went there everyweedenk and for bus trips and cab rides it was over 100$ a weekend(plus everything else, alcohol, food etc.) He comes down more often now and pays for his own stuff, although i find him a ride to and from my house from the bus stop. I end up paying more for cabs when i go there cuz he cant find me a ride.He had boughten me a $600 promise ring a couple months ago.. although i told him not to spend so much and he decided he wanted to. We have been trying to save to get our own place and seeing eachother just costs soo much. He owes me over 200$ for paying for his shit, everytime he is broke he asks me to pay for half of his ticket down here. I think it is stupid and unfair, he should be paying for his own shit, i know he ahs rent and i dont but it is my money and he shouldn't have the nerve to ask me for more.So he decides that each weekend we should split eachothers expenses so we each pay half( he only decided this when he started coming down all the time, not when i was going up there for 5 months) He says that he is paying me back by paying for his full bus ticket everytime he comes. Is he cheap and being unreasonable, i feel that he thinks i owe him for the ring.. although it was a gift and i didn't ask for it. What should i tell him, how can i be reasonable about asking him for my money back fairly. He has only taken me out and paid for everything once every other time he will pay and says that he cant spend anymore which isn't much. SO i end up paying the rest!!!
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reader, Boredatwork  +, writes (23 October 2008):
 How serious are you about this guy? Do couples not help eachother out? he may have some serious money problems that your not aware of, instead of telling him he is cheap, ask him if he is in debt/strugeling to pay it off!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): If you're going to let money get in the way of allowing your relationship to grow, you both are too immature. End it now or grow up. The choice is yours.
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