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writes:My boyfriend isn't romantic as much anymore. I feel like he's not attracted to me. When I confronted him about it, he said he's still a romantic guy but just can't be romantic with me anymore for some reason. What do you think is the problem and what should I do? We've been together 2 years. He says he is bored with the relationship. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell the problem is I got kicked out of my house and he and his parents took me in so I wouldn't be in the streets. Its kinda hard to get away. Truth is, I love him but my trust in him has faded alittle. How do I help the situation so he can be more romantic. We don't even have sex anymore, honestly, and if we do I'm too frustrated to enjoy it as much as I used to. There's a big unfairness in the relationship too! Like I can take his suggestions but he can't take mine. I'm still 100% in love with him but 90% of me loves him too much to let him go and feels there's still hope but 10% of me is just tired of feeling unwanted and somewhat unloved!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): I agree with the first answer. The routine gets boring so my advice is to make sure you visit your friends and continue your hobbies. Enjoy time by yourselves. Then make plans to meet up somewhere new. Then walk in with a cute outfit and walk right up to him to flirt. Also, don't have sex everythime you see each other. I noticed in my relationships that we have great sex after we went on a few NO sex dates. That's what makes it exciting again! Good luck and let us know how it goes : )
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): That is a painful reality to hear. There is a new study that suggests the excited feeling of being newly in love only lasts up to 18 to 24 months. After that its trust, respect, general love, and loyalty that keeps a couple together. I have been in 3 long term relationships and unfortunately, the 18 month rule has been true. We both got kind of bored and just loved each other but we weren't "in love" like crazy as in the beginning. I'm sorry but at this point you need to decide what you want from this relationship and if you are ok with what he has said. If he's saying he's bored, then I would hate for you to begin feeling insecure or feel like he's into other girls. You both need to sit down and talk about continuing the relationship as it is.
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