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My boyfriend is acting ungratefully. How should I handle this?

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Question - (7 April 2011) 5 Answers - (Newest, 8 April 2011)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend asked me to buy him a expensive pair of shoes that I can not afford right now. I was straight up with him and told him that I couldn't afford them right now and his reply was that he never ask me for anything and if it was something that I wanted I would've brought it... I took that as if he were saying I was lying and I just didn't want to buy them ... which is not true because I have never had a problem buying or doing things for him in the past ... and he also made me feel like he was being ungrateful ...how should I handle this situation?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011):

Explain again why you cant buy them and tell him he has offended you by suggesting you are lying. Then dont contact him again and wait for an apology. If you are always buying him things, you might be turning him into a spoiled brat. You are making him like it by giving in to his demands too much. So ease off the gas, put your money away and make him start appreciating you for yourself, not just what you can give him.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (7 April 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntwhy did he ask YOU to buy him SHOES?

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (7 April 2011):

eyeswideopen agony auntWhy can't he buy his own damn shoes? Are you his Sugar Mama or something?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011):

You do nothing, you don't buy him those shoes and next time asks you for something remind him of what he said.

If he wants something from you again then he can apologize for acting like a child. If you give in to this OP he'll throw his toys out of the pram every time you say no to him.

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A male reader, joshua.james United States +, writes (7 April 2011):

you shouldnt be asked to buy him anything in the first place. it is the mans job to take care of the woman

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