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writes:Hello all. I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. He's never had a relationship before, never dated a girl actually and he's a virgin. I've had 2 previous relationships, but never had sex. I'm 22 he's 26. We haven't had sex yet, I'm not ready and he's not pushing me into it. We decided to take baby steps. Lately we got closer, so we started to make kissing more "complex". All I can say is.. Oh My GOD! It's the first time when someone is kissing me like that. And probably I've just seen it in the movies only. He simply blew my mind. He's such a great kisser and he's using his tongue so darn good... We usually kissed on the lips, with short kisses. But now he started to play with his tongue a lot. And sometimes I don't know what to do, I get turned on so bad and it makes me want him to kiss me 24/7. After being kissed by him, I feel so.. weird and dazed, in a good way of course. Anyways, I was wondering.. Is this kissing skill something you born with or he just exercised a lot? And if he exercised, HOW did he exercise? It's a "gift" or it requires a lot of practice to reach that level... Because honestly, he blew my mind, and I know sure for sure that he's never had a girl before me, nor got interested in other girls (he's a bit of a workaholic and EXTREMELY introverted, also lacking social skills) so he can practice with.Should I tell him that he's a great kisser? I mean, I wanna tell him that, but I'm afraid this might just boost his ego and make him stuck up, if you know what I mean... We communicate a lot about our feelings and such, but maybe if I tell him this, he might get sensitive about this, I don't know...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for your answers! Believe it or not, after reading your answers, I realized that I have a wonderful boyfriend next to me. I just got so used to him and the relationship, that sometimes I tend to believe he's just another guy having a relationship, but reading these answers just refreshed my memory. I'll let him know that I'm impressed of his skills. Whenever I tell him that I love him, he's looking me in the eyes and kisses me and I know he loves me too. I don't need his words.
Anyway, something crossed my mind just now, like a random thought: if he's such a great kisser, I wonder what he's in bed like. I mean he probably read tutorials on this subject as well, like Kenj said. I might just be surprised and I think it's in a good way. I read about "how to be a good kisser" too on the internet, to improve my skills as well, but hell, with practice even, I couldn't be like him and I'm not exaggerating!
Oh god, only thinking of him makes me horny! I should go back to my work now...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): Ahh wow a refreshing couple. Im 25 and holding the V card and im telling u this guy is quite fortunate to be with a woman like you. Unlike him, Im not in his position but I made a decision and gonna lose it very soon.
Anyway, yes, tell him! Communication is key and in telling him this will help him gain confidence with you in all aspects of intimacy cause he knows he's pleasing you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): Tell him! He might even say the same about you!
Nice to hear you are so happy. :-)
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reader, DenimandLace44 +, writes (6 October 2010):
 What a refreshing post! Of course you tell him! ;) good luck, and enjoy!
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (6 October 2010):
 Its great your getting such excitement from kissing, I dont think its a born skill but some are better than others. Practice makes it better.
If he hasnt had a girlfriend before, he may have been reading how to kiss on the internet or something similar.
If your communication is good then tell him hes a great kisser I dont think it will boost his ego, more relax him to know hes doing a good job at pleasing you.
And if he isnt pressuring you for sex then you have a good boyfriend in him.
Hope it works out for you both!
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reader, fishdish +, writes (6 October 2010):
 yea i don't think he's going to get that cocky about his skills, kisses are supposed to be expressions of love, and he'll probably just be happy he's conveying that love well to you
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 October 2010):
 Why don't you just say "Kissing you makes me feel __________." [Fill in the blank.] "I love the way you are kissing me." "Your kissing makes me melt."
I don't think that letting him know he's doing it right would backfire. I think that NOT letting him know he's doing it right might cause him to doubt that he's doing things right.
In training dogs, you praise and reward the desired behavior, so that you reinforce it. I think you can apply this to humans as well. I know that sounds weird, but I mean it in the positive sense.
Have fun building that intimacy which is so important in a successful relationship!
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