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writes:BOYFRIEND CHEATER?My boyfriend had a past of online dating sites and porn sites because he was addicted to sex and didnt get any affection or attention from females in real life. When he met me, he said his world changed and he is in love for the first time ever and wants kids with me etc.I found that he is writing to girls online, and to two of them he wrote "thinking of you a lot x"when i asked him he said that they went through a rough time or were sick so he wanted to comfort them and they are friends. i know that one of the girls sent him naughty pictures before we met, he said they are still friends. he also gets angry and says i am wrongly accusing him.when i was away he also looked at escort websites but he said it was because he wanted to feel disgusted with himself. after i found out he had multiple email accounts he said he would delete them all, and he deleted all his emails in 2 of them. he also still sends pictures of him to other girls.whats wrong? is he only having online friends or am i being blind?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): The answer to your question is YES. He may not have done the deed physically (although I’d say there is an excellent chance that’s happened), but emotionally for sure and for certain. The fact that your getting anger instead of disbelieve is pretty telling. I mean if you’re in a relationship "why" go to a dating site? It makes no sense and escorts? I think he was just disgusted in himself for getting caught. I'd get rid of him now before you end up getting really hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): men are always men ,but there are good men tooo... so please give a shot and talk to him about the situation and try to find a solution for it,whether he is feeling lonely or addicted to sites of dating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): I think deep down you know he's cheating. The real qestion is: are you prepared to put up with it?
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (13 October 2010):
 I should also add that theres emotional cheating. Even if he hasn't "done" anything, talking to these girls and forming bonds like this is a form of cheating. It's healthy to have friends. However, when you're in a serious relationship, something's gotta give. If I had a boyfriend, I sure would NOT be engaging in this behavior. Of course, I'd still maintain my friendships but my guy friends would understand there would be a little more distance and formality expected. Sending pictures of himself, multiple e-mail accounts, and viewing escort websites are HUGE red flags.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): every guy in dis world visit d porn n all sites.its normal.i yhink u r overreactin.seeing for sex worker is the only thing u shud worry about.n for his chat frnds these things r only time pass.no porn site can be more sexy den a real grl.stop askin hundreds of questions n spice ur luv life bit more.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit +, writes (13 October 2010):
I would say that yes, there's something going on. He's still addicted and is, at the very least, thinking of cheating
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