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writes:I saw my boyfriend this weekend, we've been together 8 months now and have never been happier. Saturday, I was telling him about a Psychology course I'm on which had a section about anorexia and bullimia. The subject passed, and Sunday after dinner I had a sore stomach, and so went upstairs to the toilet. I must have been up there 5 minutes when he came up to check if I was ok, and I was just coming out. He told me he was worried, and implied I might have been in the toilet throwing up my dinner.He came to this conclusion as I had talked briefly about bullimia the day previous. I said the word once.I told him I wasn't and he apologised: we talked to each other about it but I can't help feeling deeply hurt by it. For starters, I'm a size 16 who likes food, and even if I was bullimic, I wouldn't disrespect him by throwing up in his own house.Furthermore, I DETEST throwing up. I avoid it where possible!Yes, he is entitled to worry. I know he is!But to imply this when I've been chubby and overweight all my life is quite ludicrous.After all this time, I would have thought he knew me better than that, and it's got me questioning whether he actually trusts me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): It is so easy to focus on this one incident. That was supposedly discussed and dealt with. So in BF's mind...he is reassured and face it...I would be wondering too if someone mentioned bulimia the day before; not an everyday topic and then gets sick the next night...it's like it was set up...it is a way of looking at the situation.
I thought it was sweet of him to be concerned and also...that he addressed it ASAP which shows how adult he is. I like people who are direct. Way to go BF for nipping any doubts or concerns in the bud by going to your GF.
Okay...so you are not. You told him. He goes...cool.
Now your role is to go...this is so not worth my time and energy to let this build into something that will make me resent my loving and caring BF.
Time to adjust your attitude and perspective on this one.
Stop seeing the negative and look at it in a positive light.
This isn't even about forgiving him...he didn't do anything wrong.
Misunderstanding? Consideration?
Let it go Babe.
Enjoy your time with him.
*hugs*
Best Wishes.
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reader, stars224  +, writes (17 January 2007):
This is nothing to do with his trust for you, its to do with his concern for you and the fact that he cares about you. Maybe he thought that you were giving him a hint when you mentioned the bulimia and anorexia. He obviously cares for you, he seems like a nice, attentive guy, for the fact that he noticed the fact you were gone for a few minutes anyway. Please give your man a break and try not to be so defensive.
good luck
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reader, cd206 +, writes (16 January 2007):
 I don't think it's a question of trust but of caring for you. He asked you if you were bulimic, you said no and he let the subject drop. If he didn't trust you his behaviour towards you would change. He'd be making sure you were eating and listening outside the bathroom etc and he's not doing any of that stuff. He asked once cos he was concerned and you reassured him and now all is well. Try to relax and enjoy your boyfriend.
CD
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