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writes:My bf has been sleeping in the spare room for a few days and he's shutting me out ,I feel so alone ,he is dealing with a berivement his uncle died ,we live far away from his family and friends and I know he wants to be there am I being selfish I'm writing withe tears in my eyes Reply to this Question
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reader, mystiquek  +, writes (13 January 2015):
 Everyone has their own way of dealing with the loss of a loved one. Some people want comforted, some want to talk, others want to be left alone. I dealt with the death of my father by talking about him and remembering funny things he said and did. It made me feel better. My ex husband dealt with the death of his father by shutting himself away and drinking (stupid but he wouldnt let anyone else in to help). All you can do is let your boyfriend know that you are there if he needs or wants you. Give him space honey, he needs it. Try to understand he's not shutting you out he needs to deal with this in his way. Hang in there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2015): Try to be understanding and considerate during his bereavement. It has nothing to do with you, he can't handle his emotions and he doesn't want to cry or display them in-front of you. Men sometimes pull-away and isolate themselves in times like these. He wants to do his suffering in private. Being prideful.
Older-men tend to be like this. You can simply put your arms around him, let him know you will not think less of him as a man to show his grief. He needs the comfort of a woman.
Don't feel shutout. That is not his intention at all.
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