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writes:My boyfriend in the last few months has really let his house go and it's a real mess. It's got to the stage where I don't want to be there, we're long distance so coming to mine isn't always an option. When I've tried to discuss it with him he said that because he's highly intelligent he probably doesn't notice it, which annoyed me even more due to the arrogance. I've tried doing it myself but it's in a worse state the next time and I don't see why i should.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 November 2015):
 I'm with Honeypie.
do not clean his house.
AND consider long term... I was able to maintain spic and span and spotless for my OCD hubby for about 3 months. I'm a disorganized Pile maker. if it bothers my hubby I tell him to clean it. otherwise it stays in piles till I get to it.
BTW I'm highly intelligent as is my spouse and our house is fairly clean. He is lazy and wanted me to clean the house. ON his terms (meaning his time frames) oh no. We pay for a maid. If i lived alone I'd be able to handle it.
he's making excuses and if you move in with him you will either learn to live with his mess or you will be forever cleaning up after him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2015): There are actually some behavioural disorders of highly intelligent people that would actually mean he may not even notice it. However.. he shouldn't use it as an excuse. Tell him he's an intelligent person and therefore should use his brain to think about hiring a cleaner.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 November 2015):
 Intelligence has nothing to do with a clean house, what bogus excuse it that.. Honestly, it is the "dumbest" excuse I have ever heard for having a filthy house.
DO NOT clean his house! Seriously. HE is a GROWN ASS man!
Either rent a cheap hotel room when visiting him or tell him you just can't eat, sleep or BE in a filthy house. So either he CLEANS it, hire someone to clean it, he comes see you 100% of the time OR you can't see him.
Think long term here. IF you two move in together WHO do you think is expected to do the cleaning? Hmmm... *hint hint* it's you. Because he is far to intelligent to help with such menial tasks.... *insert eye roll*
A guy who doesn't care about the state of his home, is a slob. Does that spill over in the rest of his life? Hygiene? Work ethics? values? The usually do. It's an attitude that THEY are "too good" to do XYZ and unless you are filthy rich (pun intended) - that attitude doesn't fly.
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