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writes:ok i need help.. i have the perfect boyfriend and i really think i'm starting to fall in love with him. but he has a problem with me talking to guys and my exes. i mean i understand, i don't like him talking to other girls but i try not to let it bother me. i haven't had feelings for anyone else but my boyfriend since i've been with him. so i wish he would trust me with that. but i want to go see one of my exes.. i mean i don't even refer to him as my ex. he's like a good friend to me. and i haven't seen him in a long time. i wouldn't ever cheat on my boyfriend and i would just go to chill with this kid to hangout. nothing would happen. and i can't do this behind my boyfriend's back. but i want my boyfriend to know how much i love him and would never do anything stupid like that. see i don't get to hang out with people alot.. i only hang out with either my 3 best friends or my boyfriend. and i feel lonely. i just want to catch up with my ex and just chill for a day. we're really good friends. and i don't wnt my boyfriend to be mad... what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): i lived with a control freak for 6yrs and he cheated on me wouldnt let me have a job or be around my family just to keep me where he knew i was so if u have a controling boyfriend lifes to short to have it controled get out of that relaship no matter what
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): My ex boyfriend got jealous a lot and he didnt like me talking or looking at other guys! He always looked at other girls and I didnt let it get to me even though it bothered me a lot! I finally figured out that he was being a bit of a controll freak and that he cant take what he dishes out!
I always thought he was the guy for me! He was perfect in everyway! His eyes, body, lips, everything about him was perfect, but since he was so jealous I said one guy was cute for his age and the guy was 2 years younger than me...he got so jealous that he broke up with me!
So my point is that you have to talk to him about things and let him know how you feel about him and that you want to be with him forever and that guys are just your friends and nothing more! Becuase trust and communication are the most important things in a relationship!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): Hi
you can't really get anyone to trust you, he will haveto findtrust within him self first
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reader, Dreamie Tofu +, writes (6 August 2008):
why dont you try hanging out with your ex in like a social group not only just you two maybe bring another friend or maybe bring your boyfriend along. Because you two being alone can worry your boyfriend. But if you go along as group and try to ask if your boyfriend wants to come along that will give him the sense that he is also allowed to go with you guys and its not justs you and the guys date. You guys can catch up and by doing so maybe your boyfriend and your ex can know each other a little better.Hope this helps =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): This is a problem that's really tough to get rid of. No matter what you tell them, insecure people find it nearly impossible to hold back their feelings. I'm guessing your bf's parents didn't have the greatest marriage?
So in the end you've gotta consider if this problem is worth keeping him around. If he's willing to admit that he has a jealousy problem then he might have a chance to improve. But if he is always saying its your fault for making him mad then you should get out now.
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