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writes: dear cupid, i had this hard time with my boyfriend for 7 months and as time goes by, he changes. like he used to call me and send me text messages almost everyday, but now he just sends me messages twice a day and gets angry when i send him messages asking how he is. he calls me names and swears infront of me. i really then have the thought that he's trying to drive me away from him.. i've asked him if he really wants to break up with me and he said no! I'm really confused, i don't want to lose him either but i'm trying to be tough when i ask him questions like breaking up. what do i do? please help me? I'm really confused
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007): "he calls me names and swears" and you're asking us if you should break up with this guy? DUH.. the answer is YES! You need to gain some serious self respect. Stop being a door mat. This guy has some serious issues and so do you, if you think that is okay. If you tolerate this type of behavior, it won't be long before names and yelling become pushing, hitting and hospital trips. I bet you're probably trying to convince yourself that that would NEVER happen, right? Well, it can and it does all too often. Research online the signs of an abuser. I would bet you'd find he fits into more than one profile traits. You can also find out how to break the cycle of your dependency on men for your self esteem. Get help.
ADVICE: Stop caring so much for his well being and start worrying about your own.
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reader, frizzylizzy  +, writes (22 January 2007):
 Stop asking him questions about how he is and stop texting him so much. I guarantee if you back away for a while he won't be long about thinking there is something wrong with you. Don't be so available to him. Men hate that. To be honest from the sounds of it you'd be better off without him.. You deserve someone who will treat you well.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (22 January 2007):
 dear krongie
i am really confused too by his behaviour. lets say he is pushing you away but he is too much a coward to even say it? what then dont u think all his nastiness should have cleared your confusion by now? i think the writting is in black and white and no grey lines all you have to do is to ask yourself why are you allowing him to walk all over you? you are your own person and if you are not happy you know what to do and im sure this situation shouldnt be difficult to handle either. drop him and stop asking him what to do dont you see the guy is taking advantage of your love for him, it will teaching him a lesson or two. move on you deserve someone who respect you and also who knows what he wants in life. good luck
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reader, pink fraggle  +, writes (22 January 2007):
 sounds like he wants the best of both worlds. Is he seeing someone else? Why not let you text then get angry when you do. Its because your interupting important events. And not work! Get rid and get a new bf. From personal experience x
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (22 January 2007):
 What should you do? You should talk to him and tell him how you are feeling and ask him why he has changed. Communication. There must be a reason for why he is acting like this and you want to know what the reason is right? So ask him. By the way:Sending text messages twice a day is a lot of texts in my book. So I don't really see why that's a problem but since he used to text you a lot more then maybe something is up. Find out what it is. How are you going to do that? Communication. Talk to him and ask him what's goin on. Don't accept this behaviour hoping that things will get better. Don't put up with it. Get to the bottom of it and find a solution.
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