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writes:i feel that hoping for a mircale to happen with our relationship. it feels are relationship is going from bad to worse. i knew before i entered into this relationship that long distance ones were hard. but i feel that the relationship as lost all of it fun and now its just alot of hard work. moving on doesnt feel like a possiblity for me, i love my boyfriend so much that i could never leave him. i couldn't bare it if he found someone else. its just i feel emotional broken i'm usually a very independant person, whos very in control of her emotions. but the relationship changed me i've become completely open with my feelings as did my boyfriend. but i feel it might be the reason he's backing off, when just making me depressed. he's become so closed off, emotionally unavailable, cold. some days its he's the guy i fell inlove with and other days he's like this stranger that i don't know. its so confusing i don't know why he behaving the way he is. i've tried to give him space but i can't i really worried somethings wrong. it's like he has a fliped personality the smallest thing would set him off. i know he doesnt mean to hurt but he does, he doesn't mean to behave the way he does towards me. i know if i was with him he'll be happier (no i'm not being vain this is what he has told me). i'm not sure that we'll last the year unless i move to him. i know its a big step and sounds so easy but i want to finush college. my boyfriend would never ask me to choose but i dont see any other options.i need him and he needs me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiond4u04 thanks for your advise, i do want to finish college and my boyfriend would never ask me too choose. i guess i'll wait in hope that we'll still be together next year and i'll move then i guess.
idk.....hard to pick between the two.
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reader, d4u04 +, writes (27 March 2006):
 Can I just say that it's a sad situation people get themselves into when they think they need someone else to survive. Being in love is the best and the worst feeling in the world, I know that, but losing all of your individuality and just becoming known as 'the couple' is very uncalled for. You need to toughen up again I'm afraid darling. You want to finish college and I really really think you should. If your boyfriend 'needs' you as much as he says then he will wait and be faithful at the same time. I speak from experience as a very good friend of mine did the exact same thing last year. Left college and moved miles away to be with her boyfriend (because they were so in love and needed eachother, much like you), now she is back living at her mothers because it didn't work out and she says it's one of the biggest regrets of her life because she didn't finish college.
I'm sorry for going off on that little rant.
But basically, finish college, if you still feel the same when you finish then by all means give it a shot, but don't let the fact that you think you need him ruin your future prospects, the only person you need my darling is you! Anyone else is a bonus, not a nessecity.
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