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*nluckyinlife
writes:help please help!!! i just dont know what to do at the moment. ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we've lived together for 2 months. things seem to have gone from bad to worse with us, i found that he has been talking to other girls on the internet and i suspect he is texting one of them as he is getting a lot of texts late at night. he also has been lieing to me about money. i feel like i dont trust him and feel so hurt that he must feel that he cant talk to me and has to talk to a stranger. it makes me sick to think about it. and why do it??because of all this ive taken a week off work to come and stay with my parents and to make a final decision about what i want to do as there has been too many second chances. im feeling like i really miss him and i do really love him but i dont think i can be with someone who i no longer trust. i feel so fdown i dont even want to carry on with life, i just feel so fed up all the time. i dont want to eat or socialise with anyone. im scared im going to do something stupid as i have done in the past but this time i am trying to stay strong but i feel like its not working. i just cant stop crying.i havnt spoken to my boyfriend in 5 days now-part of me wants to but i have told him not to conatct me so i would be contradicting myself if i started ringing and texting him. im not coping at all, i also had bad news a few weeks ago as my mum was diagnosed with alzheimers which i am also still really upset about-now i feel like ive got noone. some advice would be great!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): Hi Hunny
First you must not let one person get you down to a point that you feel worthless ever as this is so far from the truth sweetheart, Yes he has done something very hurtfull so to leave and spend time apart is the right choice, Dont be treated with less respect than you deserve ever...YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE!!!!Its early days yet hunny so you are going to feel upset but as time goes on you will get stronger and learn from this and know in your heart this is not the kind of relationship you deserve at all love.Im sending you a link to help your self esteem love as it always helps to get strong.
Also finding out about your mum is a terrible shock and very upsetting, Ive worked mostly with people with alzheimers and the last job I had was a wonderfull job the lady was 97 yrs old I can see from the family side how this can affect and if you spend some quality time with your mum you will be happy you have done this as you may feel alone right now with what your b/f has done but your very much needed sweetheart in everyway..
http://www.womensselfesteem.com/index.html
Hunny your not happy because you are deeply hurting, To get through that stage is the hardest but when you do come through take it from me you feel stronger and so much more in control, And then you will understand this is not something you canot cope with you are strong enough sweetheart, You just need a little help at this moment...Please dont feel your life is not worth anything as you couldnt be further from the truth, YOU ARE SO MUCH MORE SPECIAL THAN YOU CAN SEE RIGHT NOW! Give it time read that link and no in your heart you did the right thing...I wish your mum all the love in the world and your family at this time hunny, And I do hope you understand you CAN BEAT THIS AS I HAVE AND IF I CAN THEN ANYONE CAN TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH MUCH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Aliki-baby +, writes (12 May 2008):
 Hello sweetheart, first of all I must say that you are remarkable. Your dear mother being diagnoised with such a horrid disease. And now you have all this to deal with. Get rid of him sweetie. He's clearly making the situation worse. Spend some time with your parents and concentrate on yourself. There is a person out there for everyone. Life goes beyond all this you are getting from your man. I know there is a man who is vying for the attention of such a courageous lady. Good luck x
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