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writes:My bf and i have been together for over two years now. He has always been a quiet chap and it's been a struggle at times to communicate. We actually live together and basically spend all our time together (apart from when we are at work). However, at times he can get very quiet and I sense that something is not quite right; I will normally say "are you OK honey, you seem very quiet". He'll tell me everything is OK and he's just tired or something. Bottom line is, I almost instinctively know that something is on his mind but he won't discuss it. Then I keep asking the question as it affects my psyche (I am not at work today because it is playing on my mind so much and I didn't sleep too well)and he'll say that I keep going on and it makes him worse. So, we both withdraw from each other. I love him to bits but it seems like an emotional roller coaster that we are on and I am getting tired of it. After two years as well there is no commitment as I am reluctant (or feel that I can't) ask him about it. Are we fooling ourselves about our seemingly perfect relationship. In all other aspects he's very sweet and caring. However, our sex life has also suffered recently (he's not in the mood) so the combination of all these things really makes me think he wants out but can't find a way. He still says he loves me and wants to be together forever but that's words, isn't it??
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): There is nothing more annoying than someone telling you there is something up with you, when youve told them there isn't.
Like HELLO who knows best. The person in the mind and body or someone else.
He is an introvert thats all. No wonder he's going of sex, if someone's constantly telling you there is something wrong with you when there ain't, would turn anyone off.
Best thing to do is say sorry and give him some loving.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): I kinda relate with your problem, I have a gf for 2 years now, we see each other almost everyday because we are officemates. I'm the quite type and wont say a thing most of the time. And we have not sex for a month now luckily she dont ask me what's the problem. I have my reasons, and one of them is that I'm just too busy. She knows it and she does not demand because she understands me. I just tell her that I love her and she's ok with that. So just trust him when he said I love you, he meant it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): maybe you should try listening to him intently because he is probably trying to tell you something all the time (dropping hints) but you both have different thought processes, so it is not understood, he may not have the words to make you understand what his problems are! and visa versa
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