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writes:I am currently in a Long distances relationship with my beautiful girlfriend. She is in 23yrs and in Germany for one year studying. She has recently started playing in a basketball team there and there is this really old guy who is a coordinator of all the teams there and he has taken a major interest in her. He has told her she can play for free when everyone else pays, and he repeatedly tells her how well she does and does not say this to anyone else. She finds it embarrassing when he yells across the court to her that she's doing great etc. She believes he cannot be hitting on her because he is about 75yrs old, but he has offered to buy her new sneakers and asked her to go with him to professional games, with him paying. It seems weird to me and I know she won't cheat but it does make me feel bad. Especially cause she doesn't think of him as a threat and tell him to back off. What if he starts touching her etc!!!!!???
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 With being so far away from you, she is probably just lapping up the male attention. Don't be a doormat. Tell her what you'll allow and if she breaks the boundries, then you'll have to do something about it.
I'm sorry, but it doesn't sound like she's very into you or your relationship. If she was comitted to your relationship she would tell him where to get off and leave it at that.
I think you need to ask yourself if you really want to be with a girl who isn't comitted to your relationship and if it's really worth holding onto when if she's letting a 75 year old man do this to her, how far would she let a 25 year old stunner go?
I don't mean to sound harsh, but you deserve more. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiongod it gets worse!
after a great amount of coaxing all week my gf finally confessed that the basketball game she went to last week with her old coach wasn't so innocent, and that a whole lot more has been going on.
she told me originally that she just let him hold her hand afterwards as they walked back to his car but it turns out now that she spent most of the game sitting on his lap and letting him stroke her inner thighs up her dress. She also told me that after training this week she went to his house for dinner and he convinced her to wear only some lingerie during the evening with him., which he bought her.
I couldn't believe it and have asked her what she is thinking and she can't explain it! she cries and says she's sorry but that doesn't help me. I'm so frustrated cause i'm so far away. what do i do???
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x +, writes (22 September 2008):
Go over there and see her at the weekend or when you're free. Make your mark on her, go to her practices and kiss her or hug her when she does well, make sure he knows full well who you are and what you'll allow in terms of his relationship with her.
She tells you its innocent and yeah she probably thinks it is, but he probably doesn't. If his interest was strictly professional, he wouldn't hire a private box and give her champagne, he may take her too a game, but he probably shouldn't be hiring private boxes for her.
It may be difficult, but try and arrange to turn up when she's at practice with some flowers, give her a kiss and tell her how much you love her, just flaunt it at him a bit.
That should keep his wrinkly old hands of another guys girl XD
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell there has been an update with this situation and it isn't all that good.
My gf and I have been speaking about the situation - which has been going on a couple of months now - and she has felt all along that what this old guy was doing was not so strange and so to kind of prove herself right she took him up on an offer to go to a professional game with him last night there. He told her to "dress really nicely because it is a big event" and so she kind of did and when they got to the game he kept trying to hold her hand as they walked to their seats. The "seats" turned out to be a private box with champagne and food in it etc, and he offered her some. She said she didn't want to hurt his feelings so she had some. It was all fairly mild but when they were walking back to his car she let him hold her hand the whole way through the stadium etc!!!!!!!
I thought this was unacceptable and she said it was ok but i think she was a bit drunk and confused. She says it was nothing and that people didn't think anything but i bet he thought he was in!!! NOT GOOD in my opinion. Then we had an argument about it which is always bad......
I feel deeply troubled....esp cause she is so far away.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for these replies so far. BabyGirl I think you have hit the nail on the head. We have joked about it and that is all it really deserves I think. You're right Guilluame, it is prob more like an admiration for a daughter, however, I also agree with the first answer that all men are horny - but this is not necessarily the case here.
Thanks Guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): He's old. Not dead.
So long as there is blood pumping through his veins even an old man likes the look and feel of a young woman over an old one.
Just make sure it doesn't go beyond a simple admiration of her sexiness.
Flynn 24
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x +, writes (18 September 2008):
Well the fact that she's told you should count for something. Seriously, he's just a randy old man and you're the one she's with, I don't think he's a threat.
She probably just thinks it's funny that a 75 year old is coming onto her and by telling you she expects you to joke about it with her. Laugh about it with her, you know, like he can look but only I can touch and such. Don't let it get to you.
Good luck x
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