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41-50,
*adera46
writes:I'm increasingly noticing that my boyfriend has a crush on one of my best friends. My best friend is unaware of this. However, I know and have come to realize it over some time due to our private dialogues with one another. Also, supposedly it was a joke, but his eldest nephew inquired about my best friend and stated that he wanted to make a move on her. My boyfriend laughed and said he would do the same if he hadn't been with me. We broke up because of it. Later, we reunited, however, he continues to ask questions about her whereabouts, who is she dating, comments on her physique and physical appearance (he tries to be clean about it). I am no dummy I know the undertones and the unspoken truth about it. I think I can sense it, or perhaps he has crossed a boundary that will not alleviate me from my suspicions.
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 Hi Hunny
He has put that doubt in your head now, This is your best mate how would he feel if it were the other way round..You were more interested in his mate than in him..I guess he would be none to pleased. This also I imagine would make you feel anxious of seeing your best mate while he is around.
Its not really comforting to be told how he feels and asked so many questions about her whereabouts, You must feel very confused and hurt as your not quite sure how far this would go if its going this far in his head...The two people you trust or should trust the most your guy and your best friend...Well if this were me Id talk to my mate if you have a really close bond (be carfull though because if I had told my mate this she would have probably thrown him a punch) for putting this feeling into my head and hurting me with his words...Alot of people may think its harmless a little crush on ya mate but this seems more than just a little crush, It sounds as if he is crushing you when he mentions it...
I dont think Id want to be in a situation were Im concerned and worried like this so Id have to think very carefully if this is just him messing around and trying to get a reaction or this is yep Id def sleep with her no doubt! And as you no him more, Only you can come to this realisation hunny, If you are worried 24/7 and truely not happy then you have to come to an agreement with yourself are you better off with him or without him sweetheart...Its all about what makes you happy and the point of if you are more unhappy than happy with this situation...if you need a chat message me anytime TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Asked Angel +, writes (1 December 2008):
 Are you sure about this. Why is your partner with you if he want's to be with someone else. Is this more about how you feel about yourself and your relationship?
Do you think your boyfriend want's to leave you for your friend or does he like her?
Have you spoken to you b/f and told him you feel uncomfortable about this and why is he so intrested in your friend?
If you really think given half the chance he would leave you for your friend what does that say about your relationship?
I reilse this isn't advice it's questions but i really think these are things that once answered will help you get the answer you are looking for.
I have some very beatiful friends but i KNOW i am the best person in the world for my partner as he is for me.
There is nobody better in the world for either of us.
This is part of what make's our relationship work so well.
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