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writes: Hi aunts. I have a little problem and I don't know where to go at this point. Well as we all know...yesterday was the 4th of July. So me, my boyfriend and a couple of friends and family went to see fireworks and stuff. It was a fun night..fireworks, firecrackers, being at the beach till midnight. Great night. After all the fireworks, my boyfriend told me his friend Joe is having a big 4th of July party that's gonna last into the morning. So he wanted me to go with him. But I'm not big on partying so I told him to go, I didn't want him to miss out on the fun.But I guess I made a mistake for letting him go without me... Apparently he got really drunk and had a little TOO much fun last night. I called him all morning today..no answer back. My other friends who were there told me that he was really out of it and flirting with other guys. Trying to kiss them, groping their crotches and everything. That's all i heard and that's all he told me when he came to talk to me this afternoon. It hurts me so bad that he would do this to me. I asked him if he had sex with anyone, and he hesitated and said "not that I know of". That really scares me. My mind was racing at that point so I told him to go home and I'll text him later. I didn't know what to say to him. I mean I love him so much. At the age of 16..he's the closest I've been to true love. And It breaks my heart so much when I heard what happend. Yeah whatever..I sound like a wuss, but I don't care. He really means a lot to me. And now I'm just in awe. I don't know what to do or which way to go. Im stuck and I really don't want to lose him. What should I do?
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reader, philip@u +, writes (14 July 2010):
In the future go with him and stay for 3 hrs, and say hay its late lets go. Ask him if he can cut back on the drinking, its ok to get a buzz, but i mean to start groping ppl, isn't right. and if he did have sex he really couldn't resist the person, i mean he was kinda out of it. when i get to that point of drunk, i say good night. i've heard of ppl that were out of it and had sex. they just let it happen.
i would forgive him, just ask him if he can drink less. to be incontrol of his body at the party. tell him you trust him and love him. and that you feel like you need to work with him more to have a firm rel-ship
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (7 July 2010):
 Um... Well, first you did give him permission to go. That being said, he didn't have permission to be sucking face with and groping everyone with a pulse. However, alcohol has a dis-inhibition affect and it's obvious that he lost control - mainly due to being intoxicated. He probably wouldn't have acted that way otherwise... right?
Now, if this is a one-time kind of thing or something that he does when he REALLY gets drunk then maybe it's just one of those things that you cut him some slack on... occasionally... but if this is something that happens more frequently than not - well then you have to talk to him about it.
As for him NOT answering the phone or texting you back... I wouldn't worry about that so much. It's called a HANGOVER! And I'm sure that if you've done some serious drinking yourself - you'll know what it's like. Ya don't really wanna do much of anything; except get rid of the headache.
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reader, casanovaxeja +, writes (6 July 2010):
well, the fact that you are worrying isnt a good indicator. do you know if hes a happy drunk? a wild drunk? a quiet drunk? cuz i know hes a flirt...and thats okay..i mean some ppl naturally flirt, but have some faith in him! you guys have talked about it, and he told you what he remembers...i hope everything turns out for the best!
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