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writes:I know I'm too young... But my boyfriend is making it very difficult to control myself. Yesterday I walked over to his house, and I noticed that no one was home. So we started making out on his couch, but I thought that was just going to be it, making out.I was rong though, he put his hand in my shorts and finger banged me, and other things... I didn't have sex with him, well just oral sex but... yeah, no vaginal sex. He told me while he was doing this that he doesn't want to have sex, and that he wouldn't even with a condom. That really threw me off, cause I don't know why he would be doing all these things to me, then tell me that he doesn't want to have sex.Well I can't really say that I'm trying to stop it... cause yesterday I let these things happen, but I would have been fine of he had said he didn't want to have sex, if he hadn't done those things. It's just frustrating... I'm mad at myself for doing those things, I'm confused my his actions that are completely different from his words, and dissapointed that things hadn't gone farther even though it's not something that I wanted to do in the first place...I'm completely clueless of what I should do in this situation.... Any advise ?? please...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks... yeah, and I wasn't thinking at the time. I really needed a wake up call and thank you everyone who replied. I really apretiate it.
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (28 June 2012):
 you are too young for all this "sex" to be happening , you will grow up looking back and regretting a lot of things if you don't stop now and have some self respect toward your self. if you don't have self respect the boys you meet won't have any respect for you either, they will use you for sex and go to the next girl after they are tired of you.
i am telling you this because i care. don't mess your life up with these boys wanting sex, you are young think about the future. don't give your self things to look back on with regrets.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2012): He doesn't want a kid.
He isn't ready for sex.
He doesn't want to have sex with you.
You are a child! You didn't even communicate well enough with each other to know his current stance on having intercourse and his intentions regarding recriprocating.
Finally, you need to try and control yourself and wait a few years to start having intercourse. Get to know your body first. If you are feeling overwhelmingly horny it is most likely the fertile time in your menstrual cycle. ALWAYS use condoms! Don't be a child who misses out of some of the best years of her life because she has her own child to raise. You will lose your friends. You can't take your baby to adult parties and can't leave a youngster alone without a babysitter if you want a night out. You will have stretch marks, and probably a c-section scar.
Think, child, think!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (27 June 2012):
 OK first off, it's illegal for you two to be having sex. If either of your parents found out one or both of you could go to jail. Your boyfriend is absolutely right.
If you're feeling an overwhelming need to have sex, your best bet isn't to have sex, it's to masturbate then show your boyfriend how to do it or to let him give you oral sex. Horniness is cured by an orgasm and penetrative sex doesn't do that for the vast majority of women, and that's adult women with lots of experience. At your age it's pretty much a guarantee that won't do it. Even if you had sex now, you'd still be feeling antsy to do it again.
So go get your urges out with yourself instead. Not only will it help you make a more rational decision about this, but it will also improve your sex life later on to know what you like AND make you stop feeling an urgent need to go through with this.
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