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writes:My boyfriend doesnt seem to want me around his friends....we have been dating 7 months now, I have briefly met his closest friend and his wife and another older friend. Briefly, meaning they stopped by for a few minutes one day when I was at his house. I have met some of the family, dad, step mom, brother and his wife and a few others at a funeral. I had met his dad stepmom brother and his wife on a previous occasion. This is why this is confusing. His closest friend I met said we should hang out and I have kids and he mentioned me bringing them along. But I have never hung out with them, he goes to they're house and sometimes to play pool or karaoke, but doesnt invite me. We only get to see each other once a week usually due to schedule, school kids etc. So should I be worried....is he ashamed of me....ashamed of his friends or stories they might tell me...not sure if I should bring it up or just see how it goes... any thought are greatly appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, Nat34  +, writes (23 September 2011):
Sorry, misread it - if it's just you then as I said, observe and after a couple of months, mention it again. If it's just you and you are important, he should take you with him. I dated a guy a few years ago that used to take a close friend to other friends houses instead of me. He wasn't gay but just didn't want people to see us as a couple - would I let that happen again - he'll no!!! He made me feel like I wasn't good enough.
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reader, Nat34 +, writes (23 September 2011):
Please don't take this the wrong way, but maybe he just wants to be sure about introducing the kids to his friends etc. It can be really hurtful to kids if things dont work out. My boyfriend didn't meet my kids for 5 months and then introduced us all to his whole family bit by bit. I've met his friends but the kids havent - it's more lack of opportunity. Observe over the next couple of months and try not to take it to heart. I think in a couple of months of sitting back and watching will give you a clearer picture. Take Care and the very best of luck x
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reader, petina1 +, writes (15 January 2011):
 That's a biggy, going to a funeral, never know who is going to be there family wise. He wouldnt have had much control about that event. Maybe he is waiting for someone to invite him to a party at their house so he can bring you. If he's just chilling with friends and you arent there, no special occasion, i shouldnt worry too much. he is probably thinking, who will look after your kids.
Seven months isnt long enough to judge the family situation yet. Maybe in a little while longer, you could invite y our self to his family outtings, where the kids are. Don't wait for him, get in touch with his friends wife and invite her over to yours. Lot's you can do. If he's up to no good, you will soon find out.
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