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writes:i literally just told my best friend in the world that i loved her and she was so confused that i brock the aquard silence and told her i needed some time and all she could say was that she needed some time also. so now i just feel like crap because she obveously doesnt like me she said "i love you im just not in love with you" like the day before but i just couldnt take the fact that i didnt tell her and i just blurted it out. now i feel like a jerk for ruening our friendship, and a f*** idiot for ruening her day and possiably our friendship. i dont know what to think now should i just ask her if we should just forget the whole thing happened and try to go over it and be friends like it was just a bad memory or did i just ruen the best friendship iv ever had so bad that we can never go back? i just feel like sutch a looser that i would ever think she would like me back just a complete idiot. can someone please tell me what i should do and maby try to guess what will happen next so im kinda redy for it becasue its probably gona feel like C4 blowing up in my heart.
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reader, william5 +, writes (16 January 2011):
william5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok ya the friendship is alittle different but its i good different shes more open so ya. and she was able to get to a liek about me likeing her alredy becasue were together so mutch people think were dating and someoen asked is if we were and she said "he wishes" in a really cate and joking way so...ya i guess everything is going ok thankyou for the advice
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reader, petina1  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 i should just carry on, like nothings changed in the friendship, she knows what you have said now, but now it's her move if she wants more. If she doesnt it will be hard for you to carry on as normal, but you don't want to lose the friendship so you must carry on as normal.
If you both start acting coy shy with each other, trying to avoid each other then you know that the situation has changed big style and you could just jokingly break the ice and say, who am i to think you'd ever want me,,, your best friend,,, as a boyfriend. lol. you know something like that, get her laughing, then maybe she will let you know her feelings on that. Maybe.
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reader, auntieloulou +, writes (15 January 2011):
 Sounds to me that the girl just needs a bit of time to let this sink in. Give her a few days and then get back in touch with her and tell her that you think you need to talk so can you meet up. take her out for a coffee/lunch somewhere and tell her how you feel about her. honesty is always the best policy so as long as you are open with her then you cannot lose. maybe she feels the same way but just needs time to process everything. maybe she doesnt and doesnt know what to say to you. i cant tell you whats going to happen next as i dont know any signs tht she may have been giving you, or what your friendship was like. if she doesnt feel the same way back then your friendship is most likely to be affected because she will always be aware of how you feel. but its good that you told her because you can never switch off your feelings, if you had not told her you would have had to go on pretending, and that would get hard in the future when she has boyfriends etc. i really really have my fingers and toes crossed for you!
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