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writes: I've been dating a guy for 5 months and were exsclusive.. I'm finding myself in love with him he treats me well except for one issue he doesn't tell anyone about me, not friends which he only has a few not co workers not his family... He tells me that those people aren't important all that matters is us . I'm confused?? He is in the military and moves around alot he asked me to move with him in a years time when he has to leave. But he told me that though he has strong feelings for me he doesn't love me. I asked him why he would want me to go with him if he does not and his reply is because he wants to be with me. Help me I'm confused ??? I feel that I deserve the recognition of being his girlfriend and everytime I ask him to tell a colleague about me we get into a fight because he says those people don't matter only I do. Could this be because of him moving around so much being in the military he doesn't form real relationships with people ? And I'm scared if that's the case what about me ? I told him I would go with him when he leaves but im having doubts.. any advice would help thanks . Side note ... he says I will meet his family when he gets his promotion and they visit him in the state we live in but says he is not close with them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2018): He is stringing you along to keep you where you are now, he is being partially honest in saying he doesn't love you but sorry my guess is that he has someone if not others on the go and he is keeping his options well and truly open. Do yourself a favor and forget about this player, he is not going to give you what you want or deserve.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2018): Don't move in with him. He's the type of guy wants the kind of female who will cook, clean, do his laundry, and take care of him. He will hide you from everybody and isolate you from your family. He will control you and treat you like his sex-servant. You said he treats you well. Just well?
You didn't describe enough good about him to justify being in-love with him. Let alone moving in with him. I'd be nervous about a guy who has no friends! He won't even acknowledge your relationship. That's the first sign of a control-freak or a narcissist. You are their property!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 April 2018):
 This guy is ridiculous. He probably has a wife somewhere. 5 months is a short time to say I love you but once he said he doesn't love you, that's the time you should have ditched him. He wants you to move in with him because when he's relieved from his duty he gets to have sex, a bed made for him and meals made for him.
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