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writes:I am 25 yrs old and my bf also 25, we always fighting,but i know that we love each other so much,but he doesnt respect me,he says what ever he want,we have been together for 3 yrs, if i tell him that he must change his behaviour,he wil tell me that if i want to leave him its fine and he will says that i dont care but the next day he will ask me to forgive him and i forgive him. can you plz help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): just face with your problems and talk with him face to face and if he not gonna chance move on find some one because look like he never gonna change
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): I do understand what you are going through, because I just got out of a relationship with an Arrogant, Self Absorbed, Selfish, Self-Centered and A-Hole who didn't respect anything or anyone he wouldn't apologize for his actions he only cared about making money, that took president over everything he was married to his job and seems to think that Love doesn't Conquer All. He would make plans to meet and then change his mind. He was very indecisive about everything and would always says how much money he wasn't going to spend on something. He was very cheap and complained because he had to pay for everything. So my advice to you is that he will not change at all. Like the old saying" What you see is what you get" SO GET OUT BEFORE HE SUCKS YOU INTO MARRYING HIM AND HAVE DIS-FUNCTIONAL CHILDREN. BECAUSE HE ISN'T GOING TO CHANGE HE WILL JUST REPLACE YOU WITH SOMEONE WHO WILL ALLOW HIM TO CONTINUE WITH HIS BAD HABITS AND PUT UP WITH HIM. Because in his mind he thinks he is smarter than you and will continue to manipulate you by saying he is sorry and that he really wants this with you and what he is really saying is: " HE WANTS YOU TO JUST GIVE IN AND GET USE TO THE IDEA OF HIM DOING WHAT HE WANTS AND WILL SAY TO YOU THAT YOU KNEW HOW HE WAS BEFORE YOU GOT INVOLVED AND YOU CAN JUST LEAVE OR WALK AWAY I DON'T CARE. This is just a way to manipulate you to stay with him and agree to him being who he is.
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reader, ssz +, writes (18 August 2010):
I personally believe that what you love you most certainly respect. You deserve better than a man who ill treats you, after 3years and he still treats you like this, as I see it there is certainly no way he is going to change the way he treats you. When he speaks to you in an improper manner he keeps on hurting you but does not seem to care. He keeps on treating you like this because he knows everytime he comes back and asks for forgiveness he will get it. You seem like a nice person, and nice people deserve to nbe treated with respect.
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reader, Pantherfan  +, writes (18 August 2010):
The simple and annoying truth is most men are jerks, and idiots. Which is quite simply a powerful combination. They sit around with other men hearing stories of how those men treat their woman, seeing how they react to other women and think this is OK, normal, expected, or even REQUIRED for them to be a "REAL MAN". Unfortunately this truth quickly becomes worse than it is because very few women (or men honestly) really want to spend the rest of their lives alone, so if most men are jerks and idiots, that means like it or not, most women are going to end up with a jerk/idiot husband. In this world we live in, just like guys learn to accept that most "hot chicks" are really bitches (I use this term freely because frankly it IS what I am trying to say) most handsome men ARE assholes! The only real question left is would you rather have a good looking guy who's a complete asshole, (sounds to me like that's what you have now) or are you willing to take someone who might not be as physically appealing but is much more mentally/emotionally mature.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for ur advice.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 Maybe you should leave him, it will have one of 3 effects.
1) He will realise what hes lost and try to change for your sake.
2) He will move on.
3) He will apologise to you say how sorry he is and misses you, after a short time he will return to his old ways.
Sometimes you have to take risks to become a better person.
A relationship should be built on trust, friendship, respect, appreciation, love and compromise.
Sure arguments will happen but they shouldnt be constant, if they are then something is fundamentally wrong in the relationship.
Look at yourself also, are the arguments about things that could be avoided?
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (18 August 2010):
Let me see if you understand the word "love". He does whatever he wants, and doesn't care what you say, he disrepects you all the time, you fight all the time, but... You love each other very much???
I thought love was the opposite of all that.
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reader, heartbroken101  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 you need to be in a relationship where the man respects you. end of discussion. if he doesn't respect you then the relationship won't work. its going around and around in circles. you need to figure out what you want personally and go from there. stop hurting yourself if your in a relationship where he doesn't respect you and he says something and then changes his mind straight away. its not healthy for either of you. he needs to know that.
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