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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now, and its turning into a serious relationship. We both love each others company and have great chemistry. But I've lately noticed that he no longer compliments me like he used to. I've bought new clothes and changed the way I wear my hair and make up a few times, but it's almost like he doesn't notice. Meanwhile he compliments others. This isn't an issue of jealousy for me, I'm just surprised. Nothing else has changed between us, we're still very comfortable with each other. It just seems like he doesn't notice things about me anymore. Or if he does, he doesn't make any comments. I don't know how to deal with this. Should I bring this up with him? Should this even be an issue? It's making me just a little self conscious....
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reader, BJacobs  +, writes (5 June 2011):
 It could be one of two things, or even both. He may feel that you know that he thinks your beatuiful and what not so he probably thinks he doesnt have to say it. He could also no want to feel like a broken record saying it over and over again. Thats how i see it. Its not really a big deal, but if its bothering you i would go ahead and talk to him about it. Just dont do it in a way that would lead to an argument.
Best of luck to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): Hi,
You are in a different phase of the relationship now. Its a sad fact but when you get the most compliments is in the infatuation phase where your both in your bubble.
After a year or so the guy does not make as much effort because he feel that he has you now and doesnt need to make you feel special. He trusts you 100%. Nothing is threatening the relationship. So its on autopilot, comfort phase. Has he started to fat infront of you yet?
Anyway you will get compliments the next time there is a threat. So enjoy
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (5 June 2011):
 As our relationships get longer and longer, the people in it...well ....they don't always notice the little things...in fact you can walk infront of the television naked and they will not notice.
He notices things about other people because he does not see them every day, I am sure you guys see each other quite often....so if you had bright blue hair...trust me he would notice...but if you had a cut and a dye job....you would just be the woman he loves.
If it bothers you that much, then have a little chat with you, do NOT make it an issue...but just ask him...if he is okay and that you've noticed you don't get the compliments and stuff anymore. You don't want to come across needy or anything. If he loves you the same, and you guys feel the same..I don't see why this should be an issue.
Good Luck
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