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writes:HiIn addition to my below questionhttp://www.dearcupid.org/question/boyfriend-got-me-a-job-where-he-works.htmlmy bf does not want1) even to say hello to me in office2) whenever he crosses me he doesnt even turn my side and even if does he behaves as if im invisible3) we go to office separately, he goes lunch with his friends/collegues and i sit alone since im new.The explanation he gives is, he doesnt want to me disturb his work and doesnt want to entertain me talking to him in office. I couldnt deal with this, its breaking my heart that he pretends as if im nothing. I dont want to fight over this all the time and i need this job too. Does he think im not good enough for him. please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, Foxglove  +, writes (6 April 2013):
Hi there,This is really a terrible. Hurtful situation. I had something similar happen with an ex. He worked at a location everyone in town frequented, but when I came in, he refused to even look in my direction. Even if I tried talking to him, he would just give me the cold shoulder. Eventually I had enough and confronted him. He said it was because he didn't want to start talking about his work drama with me or some BS. Later I found out it was because he had a female coworker he didn't want to have know about me.Sorry hun, either he is a total jerk, or he is hiding something.Now I would suggest you stick with the job, and become the best you can be. Don't let him dictate how you feel in the workplace. Branch out and make friends. Maybe even get better at the job than him!Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2013): Well, to be honest with you. yeah i think so. because that's how he makes you feel. remember our reaction is just base on how people treat us. Base on your stories, Il'd say your right about it. If I were you, instead of focusing on your relationship with him. focus with your work. how you can perform well, make new friends with other people. Sorry but i also suggest for you to break up with him. The guy ain't worth it. if someone is embarrassed to be seen with me, that someone deserves to be remove in my life. Cuz if i were you, i would definitely want to be with someone who will be proud of me, regardless where we are or who were with. If having a relationship is disallowed at your work,still, its not an excused to totally ignore you. he has issues that his not telling you. Well im sure you'll find out soon..Good luck..
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 April 2013):
 Tell him that it's going to be more obvious to folks that he IGNORES YOU TOTALLY as that's rude.
Personally, you need to keep it very professional but I see no problem with being civil and friendly at work
and i have no issue coming in together and even having lunch together, although if he would rather eat with the boys I can see that too although a once a week lunch with you seems nice.
I think there is something else going on that he's not telling you.
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