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30-35,
*ady in Love
writes:Dear cupids,my 10 month boyfriend and i have passed over all the porblems you may imagine and all thanks to the power of true deep long long conversations and in ten month i have never faced such a situastion as the one we passed today and his reaction is not understandable by me in any way!while we were walking together in the some street away from my home, not holding hand or any thing, a man from on a motor cycle said :"niiiice" to me and went i away, i was surprised! Its not the first time a man has talked like that to me but that he did it near my boyfriend, my boyfriend asked me why am i surprised so i told him this man just did that, my bf just replyesd :"really?" It for the nest 5 minutes he said nothing , i knew he was angry so i tried to change the subject but he didn't let me saying:"chill now" another man from behind said:" woooooow" and the anger in my bf and in me just grow even morei got angry becuase my fb didn't do nothing about it! not even a stop it mean look to the men! he got angry of me so i said :"its not my fault if they talk such things" and he just replyed:" i said chill!"he called me later after i asked him to, i wanted to talk what happened up, he said he doesn't want to talk about it.i just want to knew why is he angry? why wouldn't he talk?when such things happens when he's far i tell him and he congrads me for not replying or giving any attention to these low esteemed men , he never not talk about!finally i need to know how can a man not defend his love, and not so anything about these men! I felt disappionted that he did nothing, he is the ultimate man in my eyes, the hero, and yet he just delt with it using the silent treatment.What should i do?Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, Lady in Love +, writes (18 March 2013):
Lady in Love is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you all for the splending answers! I guess i never thought of it in this way, i simply disliked the idea that he gave no reaction but now i sort of get it.
You're right they are not worth us wasting time on them
And yes it happens alot but not only to me, the men in my neighbor hood comments even on grandmoms lol!
I am decent in my what i wear most of the time but i'll try doing better when i'm out with him
Thank you all for your helpfull answers
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2013): Ignoring men who holler at you is the best way to deal with the situation. What if your boyfriend had confronted one of them? Instead of exchanging words, the other guy responds by aggressively attacking and injuring your boyfriend with a weapon, or maybe beating him badly. How would you feel then? If you really love this man, you will respect his decision to ignore these men because they aren't worth his attention or yours.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (15 March 2013):
Well, do you want him to get into a fight with these men? Because that's what might happen.
Would he be fysically capable of beating them up at all?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2013): Does this kind of thing happen a lot where you live? Something like this happened to me one time when me and my boyfriend where coming home from a theatre performance. Since it was aimed at me I gave the caller the finger and told him to fuck his boyfriend who may or may not of been that. The men kind of looked stunned and then just stepped on the gas and took off. By the time my boyfriend noticed it was all over. Of course my boyfriend is a black belt in karate and is pushing 6ft 7 inches and could of easily handled the two goons. Be careful in how you get involved in most cases these people are itching for a fight and if you did that you might end up visiting your boyfriend in the hospital and you could end up being assaulted. Unless your boyfriend is like mine most men realize this kind of exercise is going to end in violence. Its your decision but don't beat him up to bad. I just told my boyfriend your story and he said avoiding a confrontation at al costs is the smartest thing most times. Of course if it gets out of hand you should try to move to area where people are and then take a picture with your phone and callthe police. If it gets to this point your boyfriend is going to have some extensive hospital time if he thinks he can stand down against these men. They probably been doing this for quite some time unless they are friends of all old flame. And they are probably carrying weapons of some kind. From one girl to another when you go out try to dress a little modestly it may help. Remember men are visualizers and what they see in some but not all cases sends the hormones raging. Bye....
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