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writes:hi my boyfriend cheated on me a few months ago, a girl kissed him and he obviously let her, he did however push her away afterwards. either way it doesnt really matter what happened anymore the point is that im trying to move on, because ive forgiven him and im trying to move forward. i love him so much and i know that this was just a one time mistake and that its not going to happen again. because frankly ive been with him for two years and i know him better than anyone and he is not a cheater by any means. its not in his character and i know this. ive just been having a hard time moving on. i always replay what happened in my head and accuse him of lying to me when i know he's not, im just insecure and after what happened i became even more insecure and i dont want to let that ruin an otherwise perfect relationship so what im asking is if anyone has any advice on how i can move forward? and let go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): Just a kiss? You're lucky. Honestly, sometimes things are out of our control. If a guy was talking to you, then suddenly just planted one on you, would you consider that cheating? Don't bring it up to him EVER again. If you can't get over it, he'll end it himself, you won't have to. Why don't you go out and find a hot girl to kiss yourself? Now THAT would be great! Let it go, meditate, deep breathing, whatever it takes. It could've been MUCH worse.
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reader, stretchy +, writes (20 October 2009):
I had this same problem with my boyfriend but he still denys sleeping with this girl and she admited it. If your boy friend has admited it than I would beleive him and move on, Be a little cautious for a little while so in your heart you feel confortable.
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reader, burberrypie  +, writes (20 October 2009):
Hi,
Sorry to hear about this situation.. what were the circumstances of this kiss?
I only ask because I have been on a nightout with my friends at a local bar.. and have been just simply jumped by someone without any warning.
I told my girlfriend about it right away which upset her.. but these things can just happen sometimes.
Considering the way you feel about him.. he is definately worth another chance :)
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reader, riebie +, writes (20 October 2009):
your boyfriend clearly loves you or he wouldn't of pushed this girl away, if you forgave him you need to let it drop now or it might end up ruining your relationship anyway! you have nothing to feel insecure about he may have responded for a split second but that was it and he obviously was open enough with you to tell you about it, so clearly he cares for you more than a moment of weakness
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