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*eptune90
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. Pretty much since the beginning of his relationship I knew he cheated on one of his exes..."Cheryl" with another girl named "Chelsey". He ended up dating Chelsey for five years until she cheated on him.About 10 months into the relationship I started a new job with a girl who used to know Chelsey and I found out that my bf cheated on her with Cheryl. I talked to him and he said he did cheat on her but he justified it by saying it was with a girl that he dated for two years (Cheryl).I know he talks to them both on facebook and msn.He says he would never cheat on me. But I find myself worrying that he might ALOT. I want to trust that he won't but it's alot harder than I thought it would be.Should I be worried he might cheat on me too? What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): If he was cheated on by Chelsey then he might know what it's like to be cheated on and since he loves you wouldn't want to put you through that.
Be careful though.
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (7 March 2011):
 Trust him until he gives you a reason not to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2011): Once a cheater always a cheater. Run!
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reader, AlwaysHereToHelp!  +, writes (7 March 2011):
 Hello well as you probably know a major aspect in every relationship is trust and without it relotionships just can't work. You do have every right to be worried considering his past with relationships, but perhaps he has changed but you can never be too careful.You said that he has the two girls on Facebook and Msn and talks to them. well i think you should sit him down and tell him about your worries and how you just need to get it out of your mind.Ask him calmly if he wouldn't mind showing you some of his chat records from Msn between him and these two women to ease your worries. If he accept and all is well you should put your worries at ease.If he refuses it could suggest otherwise, so i would keep a close eye on him check where he is going out too make sure he isn't home late and other tell tale signs but don't get obsessive and let paranoia take over you relationship Hope this helps
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (7 March 2011):
If he cheated twice there is a large chance he can do it again. It sounds risky to even give it a try, someone who cheats is not trustworthy. Neptune90, I know it might sound difficult, but hasnt he hidden what you found out when you got the job? There is a chance he is hiding more things, specially if he talks to these girls over MSN.It might be hard, but break up with him and move on as you are so young. I bet you want something serious, but he doesnt! There are MANY guys out there who would never cheat, trust me! I hope you take the right decision, move on before he cheats and breaks your heart
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