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anonymous
writes:I’ve been living with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now, together over 3 and he is still dependent on everyone else. He doesn't pay any bills (if it’s mentioned he says he'll only pay for his own food), he has his mother do his wash, but he doesn't see how spiteful and ungrateful that is. I am getting slowly drained of being the only one to acknowledge birthdays, write love notes just because, but when I stop giving I am wrong or acting weird. I am so tired of being in love with someone who doesn’t want to try or even want to be a "couple". Living together doesn't make us a couple, it’s him, his wants, his xbox, his texting, his private life, his mom pays his cell, his car, he's not paying for. And then there’s me with a handful of broken or unfulfilled promises, me always sacrificing, me alone, me walking the dog every day, me looking at him with love- his eyes on his cell, me crying because I feel so ignored as a woman, I hate hearing I love you, I hate it. What has love gotten me? Half-truths, maybe here and there he straightens up the room, but I sweep, I mop, I dust.Is this going to change? When will I just say enough is enough? I want to be someone worth loving, not a maid.
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (7 March 2011):
 You sound like a mature young woman who is ready for mature relationship and he sounds like an ungratful child. What on earth do you see in him?
Get him off your sofa and out of your life. You deserve so much better.
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reader, Battista +, writes (7 March 2011):
I don't see this changing. You bf has it easy. His mu pays for stuff, and it sounds like you organise everything else. I cant' see any incentive for him to change.
You need to get out of this situation and get on with living your life, not just catering to a lazy teenager. You are only young and shouldn't be weighed down like this. You say you love him but from what you've written I can't really see why.
Sometimes, love is not enough. Life is not all about love. Sadly, the reality of everyday living comes into it as well, and you are, understandably, not happy with this.
Move on.
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (7 March 2011):
Chances are he wont change. IF you are so tired, break up!! You dont want to live like this for the rest of your life, so open your eyes and leave him alone. It might sound hard after two years, but there are some really nice and caring guys out there that deserve a try. I hope you take the right decision, even if it is hard at first, it will feel rewarding at the end. Trust me nice girl, good luck! You deserve better!
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reader, AlwaysHereToHelp! +, writes (7 March 2011):
 Hello :) This man needs to straighten up his act ! it sounds like he is stil acting like a child. He obviously doesn't understand how a relationship works. you need to put your foot down and tell him that you are not his maid and if he doesn't acknowledge you and give you the attention you deserve hes going to lose you. Tell him how he doesn't put effort into anything and how you feel like your the only one trying in this relationship. I know it may be hard but you have got to stand your ground and tell him exactly what you feel like and how he needs to put some effort in ! If he refuses to make a change then, i think it is best you leave him as he is just going too drag you down and make you feel upset, you deserve better and your right your not a maid and you shouldnt be treated like on either. Oh and tell him to stop depending on his mum too its time he started to face up to the resbonsibiltys of being a man not a child :) Hope this helps ;)x
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