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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I moved to this new city 2 years ago for school. Back home, he had a few friends but they've understandably drifted apart. Here, he has no social outlet besides me.My poor guy tries to make friends but he just can't. He has no one he can just call up to hang out with. Yesterday broke my heart because his classmates all went out and he didn't get an invite. He's beginning to believe that there is something wrong with him, which is not true at all.My boyfriend is somewhat quiet especially when he first meets you. I think people see him as a boring guy, which is true sometimes but that's only because he's shy. He's made friends back home, so I know he's not crazy or antisocial or anything. I always try to plan little outings for us so he doesn't feel lonely, but I know he still longs to make some friends. All my friends live back home, so I can't introduce him to anyone. How can I fix this?
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reader, Problem.helper +, writes (21 April 2010):
 You can't do anything serious because he has to make his own friends.I never had this issue although i moved a lot. The thing he doesn't know is ,to not wait for invitation and get in with people and ask if they want to hang out for a bear or something and invite yourself.It's not rude to do it. There is a small chance he will make friends if he's just going to wait because this is not highschool.I enjoy bringing outsiders in group because they are almost all the time good guys. He needs to find the guy who knows everyone and befriend him. The thing you need to do to bring it up gently so he doesn't feel like your dating a guy with no friends.Get him to watch the movie I Love you man with Jason Seagel.
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