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36-40,
anonymous
writes:ok.......i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and at the beggining everything was great, we had split up once or twice in this period but only once was major!! he claimed he did not love me..... but after a couple weeks he realised he did and we got back together.it was ok for a while but then i started to get paranoid, always doubting his love for me and thinking that he does not love me.we always argue now (my fault) and i always cry thinking he is going to leave me!he has been great and i know deep down he would not hurt me but i cant overcome this fear of him leaving me. i hate him talking to any other females.im scared im going to push him away?! i think i am depressed and dont know what to do???
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reader, eternitylove  +, writes (10 December 2009):
Sweetie, im going to tell you one thing i learned in relationships is that if you continuously doubt him and not trust him and you guys fight over that, his feelings for you WILL fade. you are torturing yourself when you are being with someone you cannot trust because you will always be paranoid. let him know that you cant trust him, either he has to show you that you can trust him or its time to move on. it may be painful to move on but you are young and you will find someone else. :) good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): Trust him... Plain an simple. Things cause stress factors in relationships all the time. Many of these doubts are normal. It all comes down to you. If you truly feel in love with him and you think he feels the same way. Let it go. Trust him. And dont blame all the arguing on yourself shawty. Arguments are never on one persons fault. If your feeling depressed why dont you try sitting down and talking about it with someone you really trust. But before talking to someone else. Why dont you sit down by yourself and try to figure out whats bothering you.
You said it yourself though. You know he wont hurt you.
So dont let your insecurities ruin something that can be great.
-Truth.
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